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I had major surgery and all a sudden they stopped using the group text and basically excluded me from all information. Now they lash out viciously any time I ask a question or send them informative texts. I became very leery of what was going on. All a sudden my sister that had been unemployed for over ten years, started driving a much newer SUV. I took my mom to her bank and got a printout of 2 months transactions. Note my mom is now in a memory care unit. She was at the time of this incident. To the point I found a forged check made out to a used car dealership for $6,500.00. I don't want anyone to go to jail or be excluded from seeing my mom, but I need to figure out how to stop this misuse of my mother's funds. Our mother is very confused and can't get stories straight in her mind and my sisters are manipulating her into believing that they are doing everything right for her. I go to the care facility 3 to 4 times a week and know what is going on there. They are basically good to my mom but the few things I have had to have corrected or fixed my sister located here doesn't even know about. The other sister is in another state. What options are available to me to get this corrected and ensure compliance with the responsibilities associated with being POA and MPOA?

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Report the probably misuse of moms assets to your State's Elder Abuse hotline number. They will follow up and if there is any financial abuse the investigation will discover it.
Even if you are not POA you want mom's assets protected.
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I'm confused... are you saying it was one of your sisters who signed the last name on the check incorrectly? Or do you think they had your Mom try to sign it and she didn't get her last name correct? So, you don't want to "make waves" but at the expense of your Mom getting drained of her funds so that she won't even qualify for Medicaid once she runs out? Do you know what a disaster this would be? If they are financially abusing your Mom and you have actual evidence to take to an elder law attorney, then you need to decide what type of solution you want: you may need to get guardianship for your Mom but then you will need to be 100% responsible for her and your criminal sister(s) will cut you out (but is this really a loss? How desperate are you to want creeps as family?) You won't be able to have it both ways: you either choose to protect your Mom or you choose to protect your greedy sisters. Pick one.
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I realize that it is theft and I do have a copy of the check from the bank. The check was even signed with the wrong last name. Shouldn't the bank also be held accountable for allowing a check obviously not signed by my mother but signed Peters instead of Petersen? I was wondering if the bank would retrieve the funds possibly and the car dealership can deal with my sister and her forged check. Both the bank and the dealership did not notice that the last name didn't match the pre-printed check seems extremely odd to me.
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No I really don't. That's why I am wanting to get help. Will APS make a big scene at the nursing home. This would further upset my mother. Should I consult with the district attorney? My Mom also gets VA payments because she's the widow of a Vietnam veteran that passed away from agent Orange. I saw that the VA will also investigate fraud and abuse as well as assign a professional to oversee going forward. Does anyone know anything about this possiblity for my Mom's protection?
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This is elder abuse and theft. If you are allowing it you become a co-conspirator. Call APS and get their guidance on how to proceed. There is an elder here being abused. The Police need to be notified and there needs to be a way to move forward in which your sisters, who are thieves, are not warned in a way to make it seem that mom was competent and gifting them. You need now the help of the authorities if you are certain this involves forged checks (which I wonder how you found knowledge of, but guess that's beside the point).
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You need to report the forged check. Do you really think it will stop at just one check?
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