My mother is in the psych ward for her behaviour and violence she’s deliberately abusing the staff and other patients and she’s so difficult nobody can deal with her she likes to touch anyone that goes near her just to get her way I have power of attorney over her I’ve been trying to give staff advice to help to deal and manage her but she’s very stubborn and entitled aswell and high on the narcissistic level they can’t kick her out she is going to a nursing home in time I’m considering a 24/7 respit worker for her but am not sure myself she knows what she is doing she sneaks out of the hospital and gets very demanding she’s next to impossible her family won’t help they enable her and make her worse I am her daughter her only hope
The staff should be well trained in caring for people like your mother. What you need to find out is what her Doctor is doing for her. What meds have they tried. Ask for a care meeting to see what is being done or can be done to help Mom. Because, being this way is not good for her either. How is she when your not around. Many times the caretaker seems to be the catalyst. Meaning for some reason you personally set something off in her. If so, you may need to stay away.
Don't be surprised if a Longterm care facility will not take her unless she is strongly medicaid (which maybe what has to happen). They have their staff and residents safety to consider. Do not try to do this on your own.
Source: Proverbs 19:19.
Meaning: This proverb highlights that allowing natural consequences is often necessary for someone to learn, and rescuing them removes the opportunity for growth.
Context: It is often interpreted to mean setting boundaries, as repeatedly helping someone who refuses to change (a "fool") is a fruitless, exhausting effort.
You probably don't need to give the staff at the psych ward advice on how to manage her. This is what they do. They should figure it out. I'm surprised she's not heavily medicated (sedated) if she's that hard to manage.
How is she able to sneak out? Isn't it a controlled, locked down environment?
If she needs to be transferred elsewhere, look for a care facility designed for mental and behavioral challenges, or even memory care facility, if she is manageable, where residents are locked in for their safety.
I wish you well.
You can't fix this.