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I have been accused of things that my family thinks is true And have nothing to do with me. There are one cousin on each side of family still in touch with me. So I understand that things are not always what they seem. I take it that the PO kept no records or receipts therefore no proof that she stole the money but may hVve been doing the biding of parent whom had lost touch with the money. She is family forgive And love her. Don't trust. Her Gain I me. It is good to use common sense. She needs love Nx support for she lost a pArent just as you siblings . Common sense , love, support gods aong way.
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The fastest way,, If the house is legally ya's then you should schedule a Locksmith to change the locks at a time you know she will not be there and pack up her clothes and set them outside and do not let her in..

if she brakes in call the Police.

Or

Send a Certified letter to the daughter that she has 30 days to Move Out and if she hasn't, File an Eviction as she is not a Tenant and doesn't have a Lease..

I am a Landlord and if my Tenant's Lease is up, you can evict them as you don't have to renew a lease and you can tell them it's being renovated to be sold.

Also, you are not asking for Rent, you are only asking for Possession of the home.

In Missouri City Texas it only cost $126 and you can pick up the papers to fill out at the Court House in the area by the home.

The Judge will give you the Judgement.



also let her know that ya'll will Turn Her In for misuse of handling her fathers money if she isn't out of the house within 30 days.

If she has Insurance, she should check herself into a place for mental help.
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cwinter Apr 2021
Good response! 👍
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Don't see how there is any elder abuse. The elder has passed away, unless they were still around, not much you can do if she had POA. At this point all it sounds like anything that can be done about is the fact she is living in a home that does not belong to her.

Like others have said, you have to treat her basically like a squatter and force her removal. To prevent her from squandering all the parents stuff away, gambling, drugs, whatever doesn't matter, something had to have been done while they were still alive. Unless, there are documents, POA, etc. that she literally forged and lied on.
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cwinter Apr 2021
Misappropriation of her mother's money is elder abuse. You don't know what the mother was deprived of either. The POA should be prosecuted and held legally accountable.
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Prosecute! Quit worrying about a thief’s welfare or where she will live. In our family, the thief had provided for herself very comfortably. If I had to do it over, I would prosecute to the fullest extent of the law (which in most states isn’t much).
Do not let this consume your life but by all means, protect the next victim. If nothing else, there will be a record of this persons actions.
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She already took more than she deserved. Evict her and perhaps with all the assets she misappropriated she will continue afloat. The sooner she is out of the picture the better for the parties remaining. Time to clean house, get rid of unwanted nuisances. Good luck.
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my2cents Apr 2021
The person being accused of stealing is the daughter. We can't assume what she might have 'deserved' or what her dad's wishes were while he was still alive and money being spent. The poster for this question was sister who was supposed to handle the estate, or leftovers. Daughter's name is either mentioned in the will to receive something or it's not.
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You need to report the crime immediately and let law enforcement deal with it. This 'file' charges or not is a mythical decision from watching too much television.
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Get it over with.

Since everyone has already decided to write off the money that's gone, throw a little more money at it and pay her cash to move out. Get a lawyer to do the paperwork right and throw in an agreement not to pursue an accounting for the alleged missing funds, since it looks like you can't anyway.

Say goodbye, wish her well and limit future contact. Don't forget to have everyone check their own paperwork to make sure she isn't anyone's beneficiary or agent for anything.

If she's an addict she will want the cash.

Hopefully some social program will help her with housing.
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Frebrowser Apr 2021
Note: this assumes that there is equity in the home because there is no Medicaid lien.

Has the title already been transferred to the heirs or not?
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The children has the right to go and retrieve any monies and property that goes to them and should go to probate. Try and talk to this aunt and see what her plans are and if she is unreasonable then proceed with your legal rights.
What happened is The POA took care of things while he was alive and now the children has the right to go after what is legally left in his estate.
The only thing they need to do is get a lawyer to see if he signed everything over to her before his death, once he see's a legal way out of this as a benefit for the kids can he be paid after the fact.
If the kids were there in the begining how did this happened?
If they are minors or in college they still have benefits or that age group. If he was a Veteran they still have benefits. If he had Insurance they still have benefits unless that was changed with his knowledge.
benefits.gov (Here you will find some benefits they can utilize)
So it's worth it for the kids who was there or not there to check out their benefits that they may have if he had a pension of some kind that will go to the next of kin even a exwife who can get his social security if they were married for sometime. If anyone is disabled. Check it out. Sale the property while she's in it, call the courts there and see what rights the kids have...Don't worry about the house Taxes at this time, see how far behind he is, in paying them if it up to date don't worry, because once you sale the home that will take care of that. Find the deed and have that available for the sale.
If the furniture is his, take pictures and put them on line for sale.
"I'm just saying"
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If the house was given to other sibilings. Probate the will and then treat her like a squatter. Go to court to evict her. Get an order from the court.

On the other hand, if it was me, I would probate the will and establish ownership -- then take possession while she was gone. Break the locks, enter the house; Change the locks; pack up all her possessions; and put them in the garage for her to pick up at an established time; . Just besure there is no way back into the house from the garage. Give her notice that she is not be on the property (including the yard) and report her as a trespasser (By the way NOT LEGAL ADVICE)
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Imho, do not enable her gambling addiction any longer.
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Lawyer-up-- NOW-- and do not discuss your case with any other family members. Especially the addicted POA ! That would be very stupid and unproductive--- get good eldercare lawyer and go after every last cent. You only have a limited time to get all you can back. Especially any real estate she sold-- IT is all possible. BUT DO NOT discuss any of this with the enablers-- co-dependency is a disease-- that directly affect the enabled AND the enablers--- anyone who feels guilty about pursuing justice it a damn fool. GO GET IT, SISTER ! If she is soon homeless-- she is just where the Good Lord wants her to be so she can get some help--- but if she fraudulently sold anything that does not belong to her-- it needs to be returned and soon-- the buyers can pursue her, not the family.. now-- go get the POWER OF ATTORNEYSHIP and be the only smart one in your family and do not discuss anything with anyone. ESPECIALLY after you file papers in court to recover all that was lost-- you can get your property back-- and you should-- don't give up-- fight back !
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DugganB Apr 2021
BTW-- ignore what the corrupt cops say--- go to the lawyer and get your case listened to by a judge not a mindless cop.
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Im going through a similar situation and my lawyer instructed to me to file an unlawful detainer. It’s different than an eviction. You don’t necessarily need a lawyer, but it helps.
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She needs to go to jail period , what a worthless peace of crap . Let her live on the street if you don’t prosecute her fir stealing from your father. He had no intention of supporting her gambling addiction nor should you . She made her bed now let her sleep in a box. I hate family taking advantage of their parents or any family member. I’m sorry you had to go through this but it’s time for some tough love now . wishing you the best
bleeding hearts will always say keep supporting theives that abuse what authority they have been given. It’s sinful 😢😭🙏
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my2cents Apr 2021
You might want to read all of these posts. There's probably more to the story. Not to mention, maybe the dad DID always support his daughter - bail her out of problems - we don't really know. The one thing that is clear here is poster is over the probate (meaning leftovers) and the house was left to two of dad's siblings. As administrator of the will, you dish out the property as indicated and then you are done. The new owners of the house will have to figure out how to get a squatter out of the house. Imagine I left you a $400K house in my will and there are $300K in liens against the house and I never did maintenance on the house. I probably gave you a headache, but it's up to you whether or not to take an aspirin and make what you can make off this 'prize' you won. .
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First, somewhere along the line, you all need to realize that this daughter is a thief. She would do it again and again. I would suggest, trying to get her into a recovery program, but that would take money.

This daughter has, for all practical purposes, dug her own hole. Start with talking to a good attorney to find out what you can and cannot do. Then realize, that you cannot change her. Doing what is necessary, for the rest of the family, is what has to be.

Like it or not you must start with an attorney and that will most likely mean filling a police report. Right now you are all enabling her behavior, by doing nothing.

I know this sounds really harsh, but nothing will be resolved by letting her continue on her path. Make a stand and then stick to it. Good luck and prayers for everyone.
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