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Hi-I couldn’t find a way to comment on your response to my MIL in SNF (who doesn’t remember I’ve been). Yes, I would feel the same if I had ALS, MS etc. My SIL lost her 50-yr-old sister to MS, it was a lingering horrible way to go. I wish for the ability to manage my own end. Maybe someday soon. 💕

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Would be so much easier if we all had an "expiration date" on the bottom of our foot (or the top of our head so we couldn't see it as easily)
But I don't think I would want to know when my "death date" would be. I figure I can plan what I can, and try to live each day like it might be my last.
I can tell you that I have no plans to ask or expect family to care for me. After taking care of my Husband I would not want to put that burden on family.
And Rrieger1...hopefully when the time comes for me or you to want to make the decision to end our life that choice will be available. ...
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AlvaDeer Jul 30, 2025
I most definitely would make a plan, and many seniors would. It isn't uncommon in Europe where there is easy access. And it is more common here, via Final Exit (FEN) and other organizations, than people believe. I have my second bout with cancer now, and a prognosis or 6 months or less will/would/can provide me with the right to end my own life legally with medications provided; I most definitely would do that and my plans, wishes, already scanned into my chart, discussed with Kaiser psychology, oncology. I would be just fine with knowing the date, myself. I have very little appetite for a whole lot more aging. As long as I am mentally capable of functioning to do my own walking, gardening, cleaning, shopping, and take care of myself otherwise I am good with putting up with the vagaries of aging. But I DO HAVE PLANS indeed, for the time when I am not able to do for myself, indeed. And I would never want to be out of control of my life nor in the control of others, nor burdensome either. There comes a time we are simply quite well and ready. I have been there and done that. I am very happy and content with what life is and has been and I have zero fear of death. But incapacity and the losses that are inevitable with aging? I have GREAT FEAR of THAT, as an RN, having witnessed what it is for both many patients and for family members.
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