I went back to work in September part time because staying home with my mother who has Vascular Dementia was getting to me. Now she has gotten worse and hospice comes in to help some. She falls a lot and can’t really talk that much. My husband cares for her while I’m working. But I feel like that’s not fair to him since she is my mother.
I just don’t know what to do. Any suggestions?
Please do not quit your job. I did that a few years ago to care for my dad. I ended up going back part time and then ultimately I went back full time because I needed the money. My dad was falling alot as well and we tried getting people to stay with him while I worked but it did not work out. Now he is in a care facility.
I agree with MonteC. Only you and your family and God know what’s best in the end. I hope the answers here have been helpful to you.
Your mother will get worse. There needs to be a plan B in place. start looking at care facilities.
Hire some caregivers to come by 4 hours a day while you figure things out.
The trajectory of Vascular dementia and other dementias is downward.
And Vascular dementia can be one that has very steep declines.
If your mom has the assets hire a caregiver that can help out. (mom should also be contributing her portion of all household expenses as well as paying you or your husband for caregiving) Could be 5 days a week, 7 days it could be for 5, 7, 8 or more hours. Having help changes a lot.
Hospice does offer Respite.
Hospice also can get you a Volunteer that can sit with your mom for 3 or 4 hours while you get things done. The Volunteer can do no "hands on" care.
But my gut says if you went back to work because it was getting to you then you should not quit.
You could take a leave if that would satisfy your want to stay home with mom and you would not lose your job. (Family Medical Leave)