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Beverly1976,
Please do not quit your job. I did that a few years ago to care for my dad. I ended up going back part time and then ultimately I went back full time because I needed the money. My dad was falling alot as well and we tried getting people to stay with him while I worked but it did not work out. Now he is in a care facility.
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Reply to faithfulbeauty
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I would try to get someone to come in and stay with her. She may qualify for Medicaid services or some private pay aide/companions that are not too expensive.
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Reply to Buttercuppie
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Depending on your job and how long you’ve worked there, etc. you may likely qualify for a legally protected leave of absence, rather than quitting for good. Look into FMLA and your State’s family medical leave. Some places allow employees to donate PTO to other employees. There may be other options for you to explore.

I agree with MonteC. Only you and your family and God know what’s best in the end. I hope the answers here have been helpful to you.
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Reply to YoungForever
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Please place her in a facility. Her needs exceed home care.
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Reply to JeanLouise
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Place her in a care home. It's time.
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Reply to JustAnon
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our hospice had 5 days of paid respite care per month. They pay for care for 5 consecutive days at a local nursing home and hospice services continue there. You can self pay for an extra day or two. Hospice social worker makes the arrangements and handles the transportation back and forth. I chose not to use this benefit for my 94 y old dad because he was a lot of care and his one 6 day rehab stay was an utter failure. However, if someone mostly needs supervision, 1 person or standby assistance and is still ambulatory and can be redirected even if requires medication for anxiety, a 5 day break every month would be good. I toured and saw others doing this and it was concrete help.
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Reply to Beethoven13
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Yes, I have a suggestion. Put her in a care facility or get live-in help. It's not fair to your husband that he has to take care of her when you're at work. If he's okay with it though, it would be his choice of whether or not he wants to continue doing it.

Your mother will get worse. There needs to be a plan B in place. start looking at care facilities.
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Reply to BurntCaregiver
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No. Jobs are tough to come by.

Hire some caregivers to come by 4 hours a day while you figure things out.
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Reply to brandee
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If you went back to work in September because caring for your mom was getting to you do you think your mom has IMPROVED in the past 5+ months?
The trajectory of Vascular dementia and other dementias is downward.
And Vascular dementia can be one that has very steep declines.
If your mom has the assets hire a caregiver that can help out. (mom should also be contributing her portion of all household expenses as well as paying you or your husband for caregiving) Could be 5 days a week, 7 days it could be for 5, 7, 8 or more hours. Having help changes a lot.
Hospice does offer Respite.
Hospice also can get you a Volunteer that can sit with your mom for 3 or 4 hours while you get things done. The Volunteer can do no "hands on" care.
But my gut says if you went back to work because it was getting to you then you should not quit.
You could take a leave if that would satisfy your want to stay home with mom and you would not lose your job. (Family Medical Leave)
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