My sibling is threatening to leave my dementia mom on my door step and trying to figure how if there is any legal action I can take to stop that from happening and what I should do in the event it does happen? Thanks for any help/advice as this is a pretty terrifying scenario for my immediate family.
I would like to know why your sister feels so overwhelmed and "stuck" in this situation that she is threatening to leave your mother with you? Do you take turns with caring for your mom so your sister can get a break? One thing you can do is contact Aging and Disability Services and get a caregiver to come in and give your sister and everyone else who is caring for her a break! Plus, caregivers have a lot of experience with this stuff and she/he could have valuable skills to show your sister to help!
You can also have ADS give your mom a SLUM test or a MOCA test to see the level of mental decline and maybe your mom would be better off in a care facility if that's an option your family would entertain!
I know that it's a tough situation, but you came to a great site/message board and I am sure someone here has better advice than I do! God bless you!
The police need to go to the sister's home and investigate what she is doing / her intentions.
Caregiving, making all the decisions, managing a person’s entire life is EXHAUSTING and STRESSFUL.
What is the other side of this story?
This happens yet now in this age. If no one can care for your loved one, best to place them and keep checking on them. Caregiving is tough work and I know this from my own experience.
I now am the full time caregiver of my Mom who is mid stage Alzheimers. I get no help from my siblings. If it came to the point I could not care for my Mom, I would also place her for her sake and mine.
Do the best, talk to your sibling get a plan for you Mom's care and continued to living arrangement. There are services for elder care in the home too.
Talk first, formulate a plan and put it to action to benefit all , especially your Mom.
Cecilia
If for some reason you can’t then place her in a nursing home. I unfortunately had to do that with my mom. I had to work and I had 3 kids to take care of. I was scared when my mom was home that she would wonder off.
I got backlash but nobody lives in your shoes but you
Adult Protection / Social Services?
Attorney?
I was just checking back in with you to see how you are doing! I just wanted you to know that someone out there is praying for you and cares about your family situation! The thought of your poor mama being dropped at your doorstep must worry the heck out of you, especially with her being blind! Have you notified APS yet? Please consider doing that if you haven't already done so! You are in my thoughts and prayers!
May have moved. Now there's another solution.