I took my mother home last night, the social workers at the ER reached out to APS last week and I got an order from the courts to take her home because she had no medical reason to be in the ER.
I have an emergency hearing on next Tuesday because of the APS call from the hospital. My question is two fold, what exactly happens when the state takes over? My attorney has told me that community guardians are overworked and understaffed so they do cut a lot of corners when it comes to care.
What experience do others have with community guardians. My attorney told me it is a coin flip and it is extremely difficult to switch them.
I am also afraid they are going to try and use that my mother is doing well against me, has anyone gone through that? Where they try and frame your parents well being as a reason to not give up because their quality of life is not going to be the same. How did you navigate that situation.
RealyReal filled me in on your past history here on AC, and that you were the one too ill to get Mom from ER.
And that APS intervened because of that.
That's unusual. Usually the Social Workers will scramble to get respite for mom. No ER can hold a patient because family can't get the patient. Nor will patient be admitted because of that. There is no coding to get a hospital paid for such intervention.
Looking like what "guardianship" would look like, I know little about it other than that a court appointed guardian is almost NEVER let out of the guardianship. That person can collapse and have a terminal disease and still a judge will not release that guardian. A POA can resign either by letter (if Principal is competent) or by court (if Principal is incompetent) but a guardian requires a Judge's release and it is almost NEVER given. The judge will just say "If you need help then hire a Fiduciary to help you").
I wish you luck. Hope you'll update us, and hope it goes well for you.
They coded her under altered mental status which did get her evaluated but none of the doctors felt using medication to make her less codependent was a proper use of medication.
Side effects did not outweigh the benefits. No place would take her because of her requirement for a sitter and when they took away her sit she did wander around so yeah.
Hospistal had no medical reason to keep, social workers could not place her, and I refused to take her home.
Which is why APS were brought it. Their hands were also tied thus why I have the hearing because objectively my mother is doing well in my care but I just cannot do it anymore. I was also informed unsafe discharge and ER dump are not the way to go about it now is also a factor why APS was called because the hospital felt I was trying to abandon my mother.
I had to do guardianship because my mother already lacked capacity when I took over and she had no existing POA.
She has no assets and I have barely been able to get my career off the ground since I started this fairly young.
Guardianship will almost certainly be awarded to the state.
The state will assign a Fiduciary to manage care, finances, placement, et al for your mother.
Your attorney will already have explained ALL of this to you.
Your best HOPE is to be very cooperative with the Fiduciary so as to HOPE that mom can be placed near to where you live, so you can visit and check on her freguently, and so that there is little chance (with your good behavior) of their attempting restricting your visiting. You will want to strive toward a working partnership.
As to whether the person you are assigned is good at their job and dedicated?
Who can know that EVER with any job? There are good and bad people in every single profession in the world.
That is why it is crucial for you to be cooperative.
I am sorry we aren't apprised of any of the details in your own private situation, but the Hospital or neighbor or some other entity has reported your case to APS. Most of the responses about APS on this page says "They don't do ANYthing". If they ARE doing something here (and court case date indicates that they are), then they must have cause.
You say "my attorney", so it appears you are represented. The law is the law and it will carry forward now. Be cooperative as you can be and answer questions as honestly as you are able, and above all, stay calm and polite.
Good luck.
That's what is happening in our world of care. The days of unsafe discharge and someone being sent to a facility by the hospital are ancient history. They can't get competent help either.