We had a issue that came up today. We had went into a store and my husband had to use the restroom. There is a male and female restrooms. He went into the males that had I am assuming few stalls and maybe urinals ( not sure I have never been in males bathrooms). Anyways one of the workers said something to him about urinating on the floor and was not being very nice. My husband did not understand and took offense to the other person, because he didn't understand what he was talking about. I'm not sure if my husband has been urinating on floors at other stores all along. I like to take him into bathrooms that only one toilet when I can. I explained to the worker my husband has dementia and hard for him to see. My husband does not always urinate in toilet when we are at home, sometimes other places around the house. This has been a issue for a month or two now. What do caregivers do about store bathrooms?
Many places now have "Family" washrooms that are such a wonderful option. They are generally larger so there is much more room to do what needs to be done.
There were a few times when he walked into the Men's room and I did follow behind. (There was no one in the bathroom) And once I did ask someone to check on him.
I think we put some red lobster vinyl non stick bathtub stickers
on the underside of the white toilet seat lid in one bathroom so then the lid was up there were red lobsters to help find the toilet.
Alzheimer's patients can't "see" or readily identify white things.
I saw this a lot with Mom's caregivers. Mom had mostly African American caregivers but she also had several white caregivers and I am white.
Mom could "see" African American caregivers and easily grab on to their hands. White caregivers were tough for her to see. I think the white skin faded against the white walls into a sea of white.
I took to wearing red sweaters which made me more identifiable.
Yes, he's been urinating on floors at other stores all along. You know this. He's doing it at home. You haven't been able to manage this at home, how do you expect to manage it in a public men's room?
This is an issue you need to address at home as well, if he is unable to urinate in the toilet successfully at home. He needs to wear incontinence products all the time. And teach him to sit down to urinate in the toilet. If he is unable to do that without urinating on the floor, then he needs someone to help him with toileting EVERY TIME.
These things are very difficult for family caregivers to manage. Body wastes are hazardous to others, and at this point it’s up to you to make sure that your husband’s are contained. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this.
“Many states and facilities allow opposite-sex caregivers to assist in restrooms, often as an exception or accommodation—but it is not universally guaranteed and can vary by law and policy.”
I wouldn't want to be the one finding out the hard way where the nuances are.