Mom has dementia and is uncooperative. We have a helper, but that has not been helping. She is fighting everything. She needs assistance with medication, making decisions, and help with a balanced diet.
Aside from her home, which is paid off, she has a small pension and social security. However, I need to sell her house to assure she is a high quality home.
Suggestions on the process or if there is a helpful service that helps with this, please feel free to point me in the right direction.
You can consult with an Elder Lawyer. I would think you got paperwork from the Court telling you what you can and can't do.
If you are talking about how to get her admitted to a facility; you need to get a needs assessment done, every facility will require this document, I prefer using the county counsel on aging as an independent assessment, every facility will do one but, it is not uncommon for their assessment to change once you have forked over lots of money. Sometimes they say she has to leave and all that money is nonrefundable per the contract signed, just a heads up.
She will need a current clean TB test also.
I would encourage you to find a few senior placement specialists, they have facilities that they work with and having more than 1 will give you more options for placement.
When you see one that you think will work for your mom, go several times and at random times to see if what you were shown during the sales pitch is consistent. Use all of your senses to decide if it is a place that is caring for it's residents or just storing them. You will know the difference. These places should never smell and there is no excuse for it except lack of care.
May The Lord give you wisdom, guidance and strength to find a good fit and in getting her moved. This sounds terribly hard to deal with for you.
If this isn't already done, and mom's dementia is so severe she doesn't understand a POA, she cannot confer one upon you or anyone else. That would mean you require conservatorship or guardianship. Again, an attorney issue. I wish you the very best of luck in getting this done.
Which "process" do you have questions about: selling her house? Or finding an appropriate facility?
As her guardian, contact a realtor. You can get recommendations by joining Nextdoor.com, which is an intranet of non-anonymous people in your Mom's actual neighborhood and surrounding community.
Nextdoor.com is also a great place to ask for opinions and recommendations for local facilities. I use it all the time. It's a great resource and wealth of information.