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You arrange for placement in a facility that can manage his care WHEN YOU ARE READY TO MAKE THAT DECISION. Everyone has a "line in the sand" of things they can not do, will not do. It is different for everyone. I told myself that I would place my Husband if it ever got to the point where HE was no longer safe for me to care for him at home OR when it was no longer safe for ME to care for him at home. Thankfully I never got to that point. So if you can not manage changing a wet or soiled disposable brief then your choices are either hire help or place him. Or you decide that changing a wet or soiled brief is not all that bad. And I think if you research this...you have this posted with Skilled Nursing as a field if it is simply incontinence he will NOT qualify for Skilled Nursing. Skilled Nursing is for those residents that need Medical care as part of their daily routine. If incontinence is the only "medical condition" he would not qualify for SNF. Memory Care would be for anyone with dementia or other cognitive delays. Assisted Living is for those that need some help with ADL's.
Donna, you've been asking for months about memory care placement for your husband, and struggling with many issues beyond just incontinence with him. You don't need our permission. Just go ahead and start the process. It may take a while so the sooner you start, the better. Or you may be fortunate to find ready availability. In the meantime, if you haven't yet, get your husband's doctor to prescribe some medication(s) for his ongoing anxiety to make the process easier for both him and yourself. I hope you will have success and be able to regain peace of mind.
If you are going to pursue facility placement, understand that it can take MONTHS to get approval and placement, and that's after you've spent MONTHS finding the right place. Every place has its own personality, training programs, philosophy and atmosphere. Corporate-run facilities have different regulations than family-run facilities. Start visiting some and understand the range of care that's available.
You will be interviewed, husband will be assessed, money will need to change hands, and it can be exhausting. Also, you don't take husband on these vetting-out trips. He stays home with a capable aide.
I hope you find exactly the right place for your husband. I did, and my husband has benefitted from his memory care facility and the people in it.
Incontinence is not measured in frequency. Incontinence is a loss of control over bladder and bowels and there are products to manage it. My husband has been fully incontinent and in diapers for 11 years. I don't mind changing diapers. It's what's needed. Just like taking care of a baby, which I have done. I would be lost without my dear husband. So, I continue doing what I have to do to keep him at home with me as long as possible.
You have been seeking to escape your husband, and the caregiving duties. Are you looking for a "valid enough" reason? Any reason you feel you can not continue as a caregiver at home is valid. If changing diapers several times a day is your deal-breaker (it is for many), then yes, it is time for facility placement.
That's entirely up to you and what you can tolerate, but from your other post it sounds like you're more than ready to get your husband out of your house as you said you're feeling like a "prisoner" so perhaps it best that you get your husband placed sooner than later, so you can get back to just being his wife and not an imprisoned burned our caregiver.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Everyone has a "line in the sand" of things they can not do, will not do. It is different for everyone.
I told myself that I would place my Husband if it ever got to the point where HE was no longer safe for me to care for him at home OR when it was no longer safe for ME to care for him at home. Thankfully I never got to that point.
So if you can not manage changing a wet or soiled disposable brief then your choices are either hire help or place him. Or you decide that changing a wet or soiled brief is not all that bad.
And I think if you research this...you have this posted with Skilled Nursing as a field if it is simply incontinence he will NOT qualify for Skilled Nursing. Skilled Nursing is for those residents that need Medical care as part of their daily routine. If incontinence is the only "medical condition" he would not qualify for SNF.
Memory Care would be for anyone with dementia or other cognitive delays.
Assisted Living is for those that need some help with ADL's.
You will be interviewed, husband will be assessed, money will need to change hands, and it can be exhausting. Also, you don't take husband on these vetting-out trips. He stays home with a capable aide.
I hope you find exactly the right place for your husband. I did, and my husband has benefitted from his memory care facility and the people in it.
Incontinence is a loss of control over bladder and bowels and there are products to manage it. My husband has been fully incontinent and in diapers for 11 years.
I don't mind changing diapers. It's what's needed. Just like taking care of a baby, which I have done. I would be lost without my dear husband. So, I continue doing what I have to do to keep him at home with me as long as possible.
You have been seeking to escape your husband, and the caregiving duties. Are you looking for a "valid enough" reason? Any reason you feel you can not continue as a caregiver at home is valid. If changing diapers several times a day is your deal-breaker (it is for many), then yes, it is time for facility placement.