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Recently, my mom’s memory care sponsored a field trip. They put a tag around mom’s neck that said “I have Alzheimer’s”. She has anosognosia so it came as a surprise even though she’s been told several times. She said “This says I have Alz!” I said gently, you do mom but hey, you’re in good company so did … and named her aunts and uncles that had it, most of whom she loved dearly. That seemed to make it ok.
I don’t tell her all the time but when it is right, I do. I always also tell her, “but I got your back, Mom”.
Telling your loved one that they have Dementia/Alzheimer's is such a challenge in a way that you don't want her/him to be depressed. I would say: I will look into their eye and say : I observed that you are getting forgetful with things. What you feeling about it?
A great number of them suffer from anosognosia anyway, and won't believe you OR the doctor who diagnoses them, that's why. My mother with dementia called the doctor "full of sh$t" and insisted there was nothing at all wrong with her for the entire length of time she suffered from dementia and lived in Memory Care Assisted Living.
My cousin told my feisty aunt, and my aunt has had it in for her every since. I recall staying over night at aunt's house and all through the night, aunt was fussing to herself in the middle of the night that cousin started all this _ _ _ _, going around spreading "rumors ' that she had dementia and she was going to get her. The next morning, she was still fussing. "Your cousin is the one I want!" She all the sudden decided she wasn't trustworthy, even though she picked up from out of state to move near her. Be ready for the person to be combative towards you, but I think they should be told. My aunt is still in denial.
I've heard this said, and I can understand why someone would say that. Because they won't believe you. They won't understand. Sometimes, they will have forgotten what dementia is so it won't do them any good to tell them. But, I thoroughly believe in telling the truth. Don't expect that they'll run out to the doctor and mention it, asking to be evaluated. That's a rare occurrence. More often than not, they'll "showtime" for the doctor, to prove you wrong. They might even stop going to the doctor because no diagnosis, don't have it, therefore, you are wrong. What I should have done, probably, was not try to convince my mother that she needed to move into a senior apartment Independent living place, trying to be gentle with her. I should have called her Dr. and at least left a message. Even if the doc never called me back, at least I planted the seed.
Are you looking to be relieved of having to do it? I don't blame you... but...
You should be the one to tell them if you're the most logical person to do so. Delaying won't help them at all. Dementia is diagnosed mostly by eliminating all other medical issues, such as a UTI, dehydration, vitamin deficiency, tumor, thyroid problem, etc. Your LO could be having these problems, so I would lead the conversation with presenting the evidence that is causing you to be concerned. Then tell your LO that the first step would be finding a medical cause first, but also discretely asking their primary physician to do some cognitive testing as well at the same appointment.
Be reassuring that you'll help them figure out what's going on. Do not mention dementia unless and until the primary and/or neurologist has to consider this as a cause for the symptoms and therefore further testing.
This is such a great answer! They will bristle if you mention dementia but might be willing to check other issues. Call ahead to the dr.’s office and tell them the whole story. I would also sit behind my mom so I could signal that she was not telling them everything correctly.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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I don’t tell her all the time but when it is right, I do. I always also tell her, “but I got your back, Mom”.
I can't imagine why you should not tell them.
I recall staying over night at aunt's house and all through the night, aunt was fussing to herself in the middle of the night that cousin started all this _ _ _ _, going around spreading "rumors ' that she had dementia and she was going to get her.
The next morning, she was still fussing. "Your cousin is the one I want!" She all the sudden decided she wasn't trustworthy, even though she picked up from out of state to move near her.
Be ready for the person to be combative towards you, but I think they should be told. My aunt is still in denial.
You should be the one to tell them if you're the most logical person to do so. Delaying won't help them at all. Dementia is diagnosed mostly by eliminating all other medical issues, such as a UTI, dehydration, vitamin deficiency, tumor, thyroid problem, etc. Your LO could be having these problems, so I would lead the conversation with presenting the evidence that is causing you to be concerned. Then tell your LO that the first step would be finding a medical cause first, but also discretely asking their primary physician to do some cognitive testing as well at the same appointment.
Be reassuring that you'll help them figure out what's going on. Do not mention dementia unless and until the primary and/or neurologist has to consider this as a cause for the symptoms and therefore further testing.