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I read that article. How very similar to what I am experiencing right now. i took care of my husband and had means to pay for extra help. Sadly, he died over a month ago. But for two years I had symptoms which I ignored. In March or so I had several test done, then biopsy. All good. Then in July precisely two days after my husband’s funeral I had surgery, they did another biopsy. Cancer. As it is only determined after hysterectomy, the stage or grade so I have to wait now for oncologist about another month. Then maybe two or more months for surgery, I am taking progesterone in hopes to shrink it. Why knowing the symptoms I did not do it? I was overwhelmed and really had enough of drs, hospitals and aways thought tomorrow or next week or month. And according to drs I was the least candidate for endometrial cancer as I am rather slim, healthy, no diabetes, perfect blood pressure etc. So right now I am grieving so deeply for my husband that my hearth is breaking and on top of it I am anxious about my health. As Japanese say people die of broken hearth now I truly believe that is possible. it is very common to neglect our own health, put it aside for later when we have another person with plethora of problems, treatments, medications, hospitalization. I was mentally exhausted and no amount of money or extra caregivers would help. I just did not want to think about my own health.
We don't know her husband's cause of death but it is reported that it was Alzheimer's disease although this was never confirmed by the family.
I suspect she employed caregivers for in home care but ultimately as the wife she would be the ultimate caregiver. In addition to overseeing her husband's care she was running a giant business empire and a giant philanthropy empire.
Dolly would have been 78 when providing care and also she was a tiny woman. I can't see her providing hands on care herself 24/7. She had the money for caregivers and I suspect she employed caregivers but ultimately she would have been the head caregiver.
My Mom had Alzheimer's and we had caregivers. I was in charge of them. I delayed my colonoscopy and bone density tests for years until after Mom passed. I also delayed yearly physicals. I was exhausted and stressed all of the time. I did not have the business complex to oversee that Dolly had.
Symptoms can be easily dismissed. She had extensive engagements booked through 2026 so I think her symptoms may have been subtle enough that she did not give them much thought, chalked them up to stress and booked the engagements through 2026.
I suspect Dolly was pulled in a lot of directions and was doing the best to stay afloat. She may have thought some of her symptoms were from the exhaustion and stress of her husband dying.
Dolly was a quality person and exceptionally generous. I was very sad when she passed.
I think her story is a cautionary tale to all caregivers that even when you are overwhelmed it is important to break away for 3-4 hours for doctor appointments and self-care.
The loss of Dolly Parton is very sad, she was a generous person, but also longed for privacy in areas of her life, as was her right. Perhaps she didn’t trust caregivers or the medical community to honor confidentiality in either her husband’s or her care. We won’t know. She’s far from alone in neglecting her own care, it happens with so many. A dear friend of mine is doing it now. She spent years annoyed with her mother for refusing to see any doctor or have any medical tests. Now she’s caregiving many hours a week for her elderly parents, providing their meals, taking them to all appointments, etc. She has had no routine medical tests, the very same thing she used to be annoyed about with her mother, who is now frail and has dementia. She laughs it off. I fear the price she might pay, but know she’s far from alone in choosing this. Maybe others will learn from Dolly, she had a lot to teach
I'm sorry but Dolly Parton had more money than God. There's 0 economic reason why she couldn't have hired people to help care for her husband while she went to regular medical check-ups and such -- unlike the average in-home unpaid family caregiver. I can't imagine what the real reason was because she obviously didn't have a fear of cosmetic surgery and seemed to have had plenty of time for that. She had plenty of time to run Dollywood, and make personal apprearances. She had every advantage to take good care of herself during her "caregiving" and made a personal choice to not do it. Such a shame. She died too young. But, she's NOT a caregiving martyr and shouldn't be held up as one.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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How very similar to what I am experiencing right now.
i took care of my husband and had means to pay for extra help.
Sadly, he died over a month ago.
But for two years I had symptoms which I ignored.
In March or so I had several test done, then biopsy. All good.
Then in July precisely two days after my husband’s funeral I had surgery, they did another biopsy. Cancer.
As it is only determined after hysterectomy, the stage or grade so I have to wait now for oncologist about another month. Then maybe two or more months for surgery, I am taking progesterone in hopes to shrink it.
Why knowing the symptoms I did not do it?
I was overwhelmed and really had enough of drs, hospitals and aways thought tomorrow or next week or month.
And according to drs I was the least candidate for endometrial cancer as I am rather slim, healthy, no diabetes, perfect blood pressure etc.
So right now I am grieving so deeply for my husband that my hearth is breaking and on top of it I am anxious about my health. As Japanese say people die of broken hearth now I truly believe that is possible.
it is very common to neglect our own health, put it aside for later when we have another person with plethora of problems, treatments, medications, hospitalization. I was mentally exhausted and no amount of money or extra caregivers would help. I just did not want to think about my own health.
I suspect she employed caregivers for in home care but ultimately as the wife she would be the ultimate caregiver. In addition to overseeing her husband's care she was running a giant business empire and a giant philanthropy empire.
Dolly would have been 78 when providing care and also she was a tiny woman. I can't see her providing hands on care herself 24/7. She had the money for caregivers and I suspect she employed caregivers but ultimately she would have been the head caregiver.
My Mom had Alzheimer's and we had caregivers. I was in charge of them.
I delayed my colonoscopy and bone density tests for years until after Mom passed. I also delayed yearly physicals. I was exhausted and stressed all of the time. I did not have the business complex to oversee that Dolly had.
Symptoms can be easily dismissed. She had extensive engagements booked through 2026 so I think her symptoms may have been subtle enough that she did not give them much thought, chalked them up to stress and booked the engagements through 2026.
I suspect Dolly was pulled in a lot of directions and was doing the best to stay afloat. She may have thought some of her symptoms were from the exhaustion and stress of her husband dying.
Dolly was a quality person and exceptionally generous. I was very sad when she passed.
I think her story is a cautionary tale to all caregivers that even when you are overwhelmed it is important to break away for 3-4 hours for doctor appointments and self-care.