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My 81 year old mother is in hospice. She lives with me and caring for her. She has fatty liver disease/non-alcoholic cirrhosis. She will have bursts of energy some days, and other in bed all day, so very much a roller coaster. Yesterday she threw up blood and like blood clot looking jelly, same came out her rectum, it was just running out of her. This lasted for about 30 min. The nurse said to give her morphine to relax and sleep. Shes agitated and when awake shes not focusing on my but looking at the ceiling, I could tell she wanted a drink and she took 2 big sips from her straw. I know we can't give a date for death but does this sound like it could be the end? My 2 sisters and myself are nervous wrecks, doing our best to keep up with mom, every day is something new. We just want her to pass peacefully and she can be at peace and so can we. I know hospice is for patients that have 6 months to live, but this is only month 2 of hospice and cant imagine doing this for 4 more. Anything shared is appreciated, thank you!

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Trust the hospice nurse to give you guidance on end of life signs. Ours told me to look for three things to know the end was near, stopping eating, stopping communication, and sleeping a deeper than normal sleep. All proved true. My dad died 5 days after he last ate, 2 days after he last spoke, and definitely entered the deeper sleep. The meds of hospice are a kindness, don’t hesitate to keep mom comfortable. Try not to get wrapped up in nervousness, know this is a part of life for us all, just hold mom’s hand and reassure her. Care for you too, rest and know being present for the actual moment is not important. Mom will pass exactly when she’s meant to, knowing your care. I wish you peace
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Hospice is not just for people who have six months to live. My husband, who has dementia, qualified for hospice as did a number of his friends in his memory care facility. It was explained by the hospice staff that their services are justified due to steady decline of a terminal illness. No one can say how long they will live.

My mother, who died from dementia, was in and out of hospice care for 2.5 years.
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I am so sorry. I am glad you have hospice. With this amount of blood flowing out both ends without replacement I do not think that this is going on much longer. Speak with Hospice and the Hospice doctor who will have a better idea to tell you if death is imminent.
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