95 year old parent who is blind, practically deaf. recently hospitalized for compression fracture has now made it back to assisted living. He complains everyday of pain, says he is not hungry but is forcing himself to eat because "he knows he needs it". He complains of no energy. Waits till I get there to shave him with his electric shaver because he doesn't have the energy. Yet, he manages to go outside each day to get sunshine because he doesn't want to be pale like other "old" people. He tells me that he couldn't eat if I didn't come feed him...still, he eats very little and complains of no appetite But, is so concerned about his physical appearance. I'm at a loss. I don't know if he is fading, or just wanting me there more.,
How very sad that you've allowed this manipulation to continue and from what I've read in your replies you seem to have no intention of stopping the nonsense.
So I'm not sure I can say anything you'll listen to, other than to say that it's WAY past time that you put your big girl panties on and decide to put yourself, your husband and marriage before your manipulative father before it's you that dies before he does an unhappy, unfulfilled woman.
You deserve SO much better!!!
Take a vacation this summer or at least some mini breaks of 3-4 days.
The man has a will to live.
Awwe, your Dad is concerned about how he looks.
We have plenty of 105-110 year olds here in Florida.