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My father called me after visiting with my uncle and told me my uncles hand was bandaged. From what my uncle said, the patient was rolling by in her wheelchair and grabbed his hand. Before he could pull it away she had bit and clenched her teeth so hard the aides needed to pry her jaw open. The bite broke skin and majorily bruised his hand.
He is on a daily antibiotic and to my knowledge up to date on tetnus.
I am awaiting the facility to brief me on the situation. It has been over 24 hours and happended on Sunday so I am showing grace on the amount of time it will take for them to contact me (I am POA and HCP). I will give them until tomorrow (Tues) morning before I initiate contact.
Any thoughts of my timeframe? If I need to initiate contact, should I contact the Obusdsman as well? Not sure of the policy for this. I definately feel the social worker or charge nurse should contact me immediately but can understand a 24 hours delay since it happened on the weekend.

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Social Workers have no authority to change health records. Their expertise is trying to help people understand the situation and help them get thru all the red tape.

The DON is over all the Medical staff. Your aides report to an LPN, tge LPN reports to an RN and RN reports to the DON. You want something done, you go to the DON.
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i would check legal and have a letter sent to them about the assault. A dangerous patient shouldnt be allowed to roam. If you feel the staff arent up to looking after your father get him into another home. I'd give him a stick to carry and whack her with if she ever came near him again!
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Daughterof1930 May 6, 2026
Whacking residents with a stick is a great way to get uncle kicked out of his home
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You talk to the Director of Nursing not a new RN. His file needs to be updated. The DON has the ability to do that.
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AMZebbC May 6, 2026
Thank you, I didn't know it was the DON not SW that can change the notification process. I will follow up with the DON about me being notified.

DON was unavailable due to meetings. I wanted to talk with the nurse because I need to establish a relationship with her because she is new and I have never talked with her.
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Yes, you should have been notified. I get a call within an hour of any incident with my mother from her assisted living, even though she is capable of calling me and not in memory care. It sounds like they didn’t call you on purpose because this is not normal and might be bad on their record. Keep a close eye on things.
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Beedevil66 May 6, 2026
Probably try to explain how this wheelchair resident could bite someone when she is rolling by without locking the chair.
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Update to OP: I spoke with on duty nurse today after I didnt receive a response or call from an email I sent yesterday. She is new to the unit and seems very nice. She has only been there a month. The previous nurse transferred units. We had a productive conversation. There are still red flags and I still need to process some things.

Yes, my uncle was bitten but in the write up it was not stated it broke skin. But it is confirmed a bandage an antibiotic were used. I wasn't notified because in his records it is written that he has enough cognitive ability to make his own decisions. This makes absolutely no sense because he has moderate dementia and during out meeting with PT, SW and medical staff it has been stated he has had steep cognitive decline in the last six months. And, I have been notified immediately for illness and falls in the past.

While I feel that speaking with the nurse that it is an isolated occurrence I don't feel it was handled appropriately. I will contact the social worker to ask how to be notified every time from now on.
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Beedevil66 May 5, 2026
Thank you for the update!
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It does not matter why his hand was bandaged, the aide or nurse should have called and told you before they left their shift why its bandaged. I was called at 6am in the morning because Mom fell out of bed. I asked my RN daughter why so early. She told me because that aide who found her, by law, has to contact family when it happens.

I would think your Dad got all the facts. Really, it was serious enough to give Uncle antibiotics. IMO, you should have been called especially if they know you only visit weekends. I would talk to the DON and ask is it not protocol to call the POA when something like this happens? If no, ask if you could please be notified when something like this happens. I don't think its anything to get the Ombudsman involved in.

I say ask because you want the staff as friends, not enemies. Never demand or show anger. "I was wondering why I did not get a call when Dad got bit bad enough to draw blood" May it was the end of a shift and staff was trying to get home. IMO, you should have been call by first shift Monday.
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Beedevil66 May 5, 2026
Could be. I think the standard shift times for many facilities is 7am-7pm.
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If your uncle has dementia he may have hurt his hand, but it was maybe not from a bite. My mom tells me all kinds of things that are not true, but she 100% believes them. I would call them tomorrow and ask them about the incident. It may have been that the person assigned to make the report forgot to do so.
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Just call the director and ask for complete information on what happened. No need to wait anyone out or make it adversarial. State your concerns and ask how they can avoid this in the future
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To be honest, your question feels like a petty, passive-aggressive game where you are "testing" the care home.
You say you're not sure what the policy is for this. You are already aware of the incident. If you want to talk to someone, go ahead and call the nurse in charge or social worker today. I don't know that testing them on their responsiveness is the best use of your time at this point. Let the nurse in charge know that you are aware of it, and ask what follow up is being done, and ask that they inform you of any changes in his condition. To be fair, they have a lot of patients with a lot going on every day. For them, it's just another Monday. You may have to be the one to initiate contact, and that's not necessarily an indication of the facility's poor response to incidents. Having a family advocate calling them on this might just get your uncle more attention and treatment that he needs.
Sad, but true, so many of our care homes are understaffed and the staff is overworked and the patients who have family members regularly involved in their care are going to get more attention and better care.
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AMZebbC May 4, 2026
You are wrong about the passive aggresive approach. If it were not for my father, I would not be aware of the situation until I visit my uncle on the weekend as the incident happened after my visit.

I am giving time for the social workers to be briefed. I am giving them time because they are busy and overworked. I am involved and have a good relationship with the social worker. I am seeking advice on how much time I should give them before approaching them as it has been 24 hours and this situation isn't a normal thing. It was an injury incident.
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Sorry this happened to your uncle. Yes Id give it until Tues to see if they contact you.
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