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You need to make an appointment with your County VA office. You will need to take your husbands discharge papers.
Him getting into a VA hospital may not be easy. Vets with service related problems are first in line. My friends husband had Dementia and applied for a VA home and no beds were available so he was placed in LTC with Medicaid paying. He passed without ever getting into a VA home.
You may be better going the LTC route and having your assets split by an Elder Lawyer. Husband split going to his care and when almost gone applying for Medicaid, which at that time you become the Community spouse being able to remain in the home, having a car and enough of your monthly income to live on.
I do not have direct experience with this. I do have a friend who wisely decided she could no longer handle the level of caregiving her husband with Parkinson’s has. He moved to a VA nursing home. It has been a positive experience for them both. He’s enjoyed the company of fellow veterans, is well cared for, and my friend visits regularly as a wife, not the “mean” caregiver making him do things. There are three VA nursing homes in my area and all have good reviews in the community
You are lucky. Sometimes VA homes are few and far between. The closest to me is 50 min away. The other two are over bridges in two different states. One 50 min away the other over an hour.
Your doctors may have expressed that they will sign paperwork for admission. You are lucky. In some states, it is required to have 2 doctor signatures. It is now your chance to find the information. Your local vet chapter may be able to guide you. Compared with my MIL's situation going back to 2010, the paperwork got easier as far as I heard.
My husband went to a VA Nursing Facility in our area, the VA Hospital is next door. The nursing facility is run by the state. They were wonderful. There was a lot of paperwork to do but once I turned it in it was a month and half and he was there. He went from a private facility to the VA and it was like coming out of darkness into the sunshine. They were wonderful to him, unfortunately, by the time he got there he only had about 3 and a half months to live. He had Lewy Body and it was extremely aggressive. He died less than 2 years after being diagnosed. I feel so blessed to have him been in a place where he received top notch care by people who were kind to him even though he was not always the most pleasant person to be around. He never really got to enjoy the companionship of fellow veterans, but having him there was the best decision I ever made. I was able to spend time with him every day. Maybe your situation won't allow it, but I know for us it was a blessing. If there is any way you could do it, I would highly recommend it. That is based on my experience which was A+ all the way, every day. I hear a lot of bad things about the VA, but again, they were there for both us and I have to say I was impressed by both entities.
I wish we had done this with my dad, but he was not eligible. My father in law is now in a VA home and it has been such a blessing. He is pretty far along in his dementia journey and probably won't last more than a few months if that.
I did the paperwork to get my dad into a CalVet home, which are the VA homes in California. The paperwork wasn’t that bad, but the waitlists are years because, sadly, you are waiting for someone to die in order to get a spot. The flip side of this is that the vets get very good care.
My dad was never able to get off the waitlist but was fortunately able to go on hospice in memory care, so he passed relatively comfortably. Good luck with the process. You might have better luck than us depending on the state, his disability rating, and income.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Him getting into a VA hospital may not be easy. Vets with service related problems are first in line. My friends husband had Dementia and applied for a VA home and no beds were available so he was placed in LTC with Medicaid paying. He passed without ever getting into a VA home.
You may be better going the LTC route and having your assets split by an Elder Lawyer. Husband split going to his care and when almost gone applying for Medicaid, which at that time you become the Community spouse being able to remain in the home, having a car and enough of your monthly income to live on.
They were wonderful to him, unfortunately, by the time he got there he only had about 3 and a half months to live. He had Lewy Body and it was extremely aggressive. He died less than 2 years after being diagnosed.
I feel so blessed to have him been in a place where he received top notch care by people who were kind to him even though he was not always the most pleasant person to be around.
He never really got to enjoy the companionship of fellow veterans, but having him there was the best decision I ever made. I was able to spend time with him every day. Maybe your situation won't allow it, but I know for us it was a blessing. If there is any way you could do it, I would highly recommend it. That is based on my experience which was A+ all the way, every day. I hear a lot of bad things about the VA, but again, they were there for both us and I have to say I was impressed by both entities.
My dad was never able to get off the waitlist but was fortunately able to go on hospice in memory care, so he passed relatively comfortably. Good luck with the process. You might have better luck than us depending on the state, his disability rating, and income.