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No, he can't do it. Only your mother could and she isn't able. Could you do the caregiving and he just makes the decisions? Could you share the load with him? Is he still overwhelmed? I hope you can work something out with him. He's been caring for your mother for a very long time.
I've done some searching from your page and found some important pieces to this puzzle.
1. 4 Days ago you shared on another thread that
"my brother has been staying with my parents for 12 years now.my father passed away 6 years ago and now he has beeh staying with my mother for the last 6 years .she is 94 and has real bad dementia.they just diagnosed her with bladder cancer and it has taken its toll on him .he is really not able physcialy or mentally to care for her anymore .
2. You asked,
"my question is would I be able to remove him as poa without my mothers consent since she is not able to make that decision"
It sounds like your brother has reached the absolute end of his rope and wants to give away his POA which legally, as was stated above, he can't do. This leaves you with only one option and that is to file for guardianship to get your mother the care she needs and to give your brother a break. What do you plan to do?
Please come back and let us know how this works out.
Do you have enough money to file for guardianship or will he have to turn his POA in and ya'lls mom become a ward of the state?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Could you do the caregiving and he just makes the decisions? Could you share the load with him? Is he still overwhelmed? I hope you can work something out with him. He's been caring for your mother for a very long time.
1. 4 Days ago you shared on another thread that
"my brother has been staying with my parents for 12 years now.my father passed away 6 years ago and now he has beeh staying with my mother for the last 6 years .she is 94 and has real bad dementia.they just diagnosed her with bladder cancer and it has taken its toll on him .he is really not able physcialy or mentally to care for her anymore .
2. You asked,
"my question is would I be able to remove him as poa without my mothers consent since she is not able to make that decision"
3. "taiwanda, the short answer is no. She has to be of sound mind to appoint POA. You could apply for guardianship, but it is expensive and you'll need a lawyer."
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/guidelines-labeling-someone-with-dementia-as-failure-to-thrive-178243.htm
4. In April of 2014, you asked about "How do you go about having your parent committed to a nursing home?"
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/parent-committed-to-nursing-home-168062.htm
5. In January 2014, "If mom goes to a NH and signs away her assets what happens if they aren't all used?"
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/moms-assets-arent-all-used-nursing-home-164645.htm
6. Also, in January 2014, "Can my mother sign her house over to my brother in exchange for him being her caregiver?"
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/mother-sign-house-over-to-brother-in-exchange-for-being-her-caregiver-164485.htm
7. This whole journey became very intense in September of 2013 with "My brother who is caregiving for mom has left me messages threatening to commit suicide. Any advice?"
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/caregiver-brother-threatening-suicide-161778.htm
8. This journey began with a question in September of 2013, "What assets does a parent have to sign over if going into a nursing home?"
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/assets-parent-sign-over-if-going-into-nursing-home-161648.htm
It sounds like your brother has reached the absolute end of his rope and wants to give away his POA which legally, as was stated above, he can't do. This leaves you with only one option and that is to file for guardianship to get your mother the care she needs and to give your brother a break. What do you plan to do?
Please come back and let us know how this works out.
Do you have enough money to file for guardianship or will he have to turn his POA in and ya'lls mom become a ward of the state?