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I am dad's poa since 2014, recently my brother who lives rent free in dads home is fighting for person and estate, what can I do, I can't afford a lawyer
What do you mean your brother is "fighting for person"? Do you mean he's trying to get guardianship? Conservatorship?
Why is your brother living with your father, and why is he not paying rent? Is by chance your father's caregiver? What role do you play in caregiving?
And what exactly is it that you want to do? Do you want to get guardianship or conservatorship for yourself? Do you want to have your brother evicted? What goals do you have that you feel would require legal advice?
I think answers to these questions would us to advise you more accurately.
Yes, brother is fighting for guardianship of dad and house, this brother has threaten me if I evict him now he has moved a functioning woman addict to dad's home, this brother has been living in dad's home all his 50 yrs of age, he refuses to pay rent just pays gas and light, my dad is afraid of him, my brother just wants dad to come back home and support him and keep dad's home, I have been the poa who took him to his Dr visits, shopping, out to eat, visit dad, dad got sick a couple months ago because dad wears a,colonaspy bag due to cancer and this brother refused to clean up dad when bag broke, and dad's stomach got infected he ended up in the veterans hospital for care, dad caught a worst infection in hospital he's body was shutting down he was in hospital for months, when dad was released dad needed rehab for whole body, eventually rehab nursing home said your dad needs 24/7 care we didn't have anyone and also dad has dementia, so dad stood at nursing home for his safety now this brother is saying I have dad there against his will, dad likes the nursing home. No body visits dad except me, i take dad out on my day off and sunday, i buy dad what he needs i bring him snacks, and meals at times, i make sure i go everyday to see dad is ok, i have 3 brothers and no one comes to visit dad, and i chose this nursing home because its close to their homes. I just want dad safe away from this brother who never cared for our dad, is not my poa enough to fight this guardenship? Dad has been assign a guardian Ad litem because of this, i cant afford a lawyer, I don't want anything I just want dad safe away from this brother.
Yes, brother is fighting for guardianship of dad and house, this brother has threaten me if I evict him now he has moved a functioning woman addict to dad's home, this brother has been living in dad's home all his 50 yrs of age, he refuses to pay rent just pays gas and light, my dad is afraid of him, my brother just wants dad to come back home and support him and keep dad's home, I have been the poa who took him to his Dr visits, shopping, out to eat, visit dad, dad got sick a couple months ago because dad wears a,colonaspy bag due to cancer and this brother refused to clean up dad when bag broke, and dad's stomach got infected he ended up in the veterans hospital for care, dad caught a worst infection in hospital he's body was shutting down he was in hospital for months, when dad was released dad needed rehab for whole body, eventually rehab nursing home said your dad needs 24/7 care we didn't have anyone and also dad has dementia, so dad stood at nursing home for his safety now this brother is saying I have dad there against his will, dad likes the nursing home. Dad now has been appointed a guardian ad Litem, because of this case, I just want dad safe away from this brother whose up to no good.
Yes, brother is fighting for guardianship of dad and house, this brother has threaten me if I evict him now he has moved a functioning woman addict to dad's home, this brother has been living in dad's home all his 50 yrs of age, he refuses to pay rent just pays gas and light, my dad is afraid of him, my brother just wants dad to come back home and support him and keep dad's home, I have been the poa who took him to his Dr visits, shopping, out to eat, visit dad, dad got sick a couple months ago because dad wears a,colonaspy bag due to cancer and this brother refused to clean up dad when bag broke, and dad's stomach got infected he ended up in the veterans hospital for care, dad caught a worst infection in hospital he's body was shutting down he was in hospital for months, when dad was released dad needed rehab for whole body, eventually rehab nursing home said your dad needs 24/7 care, we didn't have anyone and also dad has dementia, so dad stood at nursing home for his safety now this brother is saying I have dad there against his will, dad likes the nursing home. Is not my poa enough to keep dad safe from this brother?
Post a 30 day notice to terminate tenancy. It must include one full month...so the notice you post today would be effective October 31.
Take a picture of the notice posted to the door Take the power of Attorney documents to the local court house. There you will ask the court clerk for a"certificate of service". You will go and sign and date that infront of a notary...show ID and the power of attorney...that way you demonstrate your authority to take this action.
Bring the notarized document and you POA to the court clerk...get it filed. This way your brother cannot make the claim he wasn't notified.
If he is till there on Nov. 1. Go straight to the court house with your POA and file for eviction. The reason is "hold-over". There will be a court date set. I suggest that you pay a marshal of the court to service this notice.....no nonsense from brother and you avoid a confrontation.
Go to court...get the eviction order. Let the sheriff physically remove him. Make sure you get all locks changed once he isn't out...make sure the windows are all locked too...I once had a tenant climb back in that way.
Have you consulted with an attorney? Don't miss the court dates. The court listens to the evidence and appoints who they think is best. The Guardian ad Litem is supposed to investigate and make a recommendation to the court as to who is the best person to be Guardian. IF they know the truth, what would they do? I'd place legal advice as a priority. Ask if your fees can be reimbursed by the estate if you prevail at the hearing.
I have been to all court hearings basically, my dad's guardian at Litem asked if we sell home put money sold for dad's home in a public guardian trust for dad's use only and when dad's passes away money left gets split between siblings, I agreed, my brother said no he wants what he wants my brother fighting all the way! the guardian at Litem said if your brother doesn't agree, than I know what he is up too!
I can't afford a private attorney, and the pro bono and legal advice won't help me because I have a job I tried calling many firms and I am hoping the guardian at Litem will do what's best for dad because dad has specifically said dad wants nothing to do with this brother, he's a bad son and that dad wants me to continue to care for dad as I have and that I am dad's choice.
Also dad's home is in a trust includes this brother, another brother, and myself, 3 siblings, and my brother is saying dad's home is worth 30,000 he's lying my brother wants to buy dad's home but at his price, guardian at Litem said it will be sold at market value, and brother can buy it, but we 3 siblings have to agree because we are in dad's trust, my greedy family, I just want dad safe away from brother!
I wish you luck in your pursuit of what is best for your dad, but can't see this being settled without an attorney. What does your other brother have to say about all this? Maybe he can help with attorney fees?
The POA most likely allows you to retain an attorney using dad's funds if for his welfare. Check the document. The guardian AD litem can help with that. It would be very unusual to ignore dad's wishes with you as POA unless bro can show good cause. And now you have guardian's testimony that will help.
How is Dad's nursing home being paid for? Is he in a Veterans home? Is he on medicaid? I think but don't know that a vets home follows similar rules about payment as Medicaid. if that is the case Dad's money will automatically be used as will the proceeds of the sale of his house? Can the Trustees advise you?
Where I live, evictions are filed at the township court, which does not recognize POAs. (I know ...sounds absurd, but it's true.) Also, my understanding is the GAL is highly regarded by the court, so I'm not sure I would worry about getting an attorney. Just keep everything documented very well. Just my two cents, tho, and I'm not an attorney, and I know these things can take an unexpected turn.
It sounds like the current guardian has a good take on the reality of the situation and is acting in your fathers best interest.
For your brother to gain guardianship he would have to contest what's currently taking place in court. Likely, for him to gain guardianship he would need his own attorney and be able to prove he is the best candidate for the job. From what you've described of your brother - it doesn't sound like either of those things is even a remote possibility.
Honestly, as long as the current guardian continues to stand up to your brother and continues to act in your fathers best interest as far as his care and assets are concerned- I'd let things play out on the current path they're taking.
Ask the Council of Aging or senior center in your town, or your local ASAP (Aging Services Access Point), for a referral to an elder law attorney or legal services agency.
The local agency that handles elder abuse may be able to consider whether there are grounds for investigation or intervention.
Your status as Attorney in Fact under the POA may become confused if an agency or Court determines that intervention is needed.
It may become difficult for you to anticipate all of the possible results of your brother's actions, without an attorney to represent you, as you try to protect your father's interests.
Consider whether you can get financial help from other family members, to retain private counsel.
Dad, is in a regular nursing home, close to all our family the sad part is only I visit, I could have chosen a veteran nursing home but it was 2hrs away, dad's social security check goes directly to nursing home and Medicaid is pending, the nursing home and Medicaid know dad has a home, I'm praying and hoping dad stays at nursing home he is safe there and dad likes it, Thank you everyone for your helpful comments💖
The Guardian Ad Litem seems to be on your side if I have read what you have written correctly. Ask him for his opinion of what you could do. If he agrees with Katie Kate above and if he agrees that you should be your Fathers Guardian I would ask him would he support your efforts in a Court of Law if it would get to that. Ask him to support your being your Father's Guardian. See what he says. The road might be clear to evict your brother from your Father's house. Ask him (the guardian ad lietem) or the local bar association to recommend a lawyer. Ask the lawyer if the legal fees could be deducted from the sale of the house. You must show the Guardian Ad Leitim that you are competent enough to handle this situation rather than that you are frozen with fear and uncertainty. Go to court and sit in on a hearing of this nature. Get enough information and confidence to be credible.
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What do you mean your brother is "fighting for person"? Do you mean he's trying to get guardianship? Conservatorship?
Why is your brother living with your father, and why is he not paying rent? Is by chance your father's caregiver? What role do you play in caregiving?
And what exactly is it that you want to do? Do you want to get guardianship or conservatorship for yourself? Do you want to have your brother evicted? What goals do you have that you feel would require legal advice?
I think answers to these questions would us to advise you more accurately.
Take a picture of the notice posted to the door
Take the power of Attorney documents to the local court house.
There you will ask the court clerk for a"certificate of service". You will go and sign and date that infront of a notary...show ID and the power of attorney...that way you demonstrate your authority to take this action.
Bring the notarized document and you POA to the court clerk...get it filed. This way your brother cannot make the claim he wasn't notified.
If he is till there on Nov. 1. Go straight to the court house with your POA and file for eviction. The reason is "hold-over". There will be a court date set. I suggest that you pay a marshal of the court to service this notice.....no nonsense from brother and you avoid a confrontation.
Go to court...get the eviction order. Let the sheriff physically remove him. Make sure you get all locks changed once he isn't out...make sure the windows are all locked too...I once had a tenant climb back in that way.
Then, put the place up for sale.
Can the Trustees advise you?
For your brother to gain guardianship he would have to contest what's currently taking place in court. Likely, for him to gain guardianship he would need his own attorney and be able to prove he is the best candidate for the job. From what you've described of your brother - it doesn't sound like either of those things is even a remote possibility.
Honestly, as long as the current guardian continues to stand up to your brother and continues to act in your fathers best interest as far as his care and assets are concerned- I'd let things play out on the current path they're taking.
The local agency that handles elder abuse may be able to consider whether there are grounds for investigation or intervention.
Your status as Attorney in Fact under the POA may become confused if an agency or Court determines that intervention is needed.
It may become difficult for you to anticipate all of the possible results of your brother's actions, without an attorney to represent you, as you try to protect your father's interests.
Consider whether you can get financial help from other family members, to retain private counsel.