A sister and I have applied for conservativeship (or however you say it!) for just my Mom. Dad's reasoning ability gone. Has two leases on two cars that he does not need to be driving at all. We've already had DMV send letter revoking license; he has 30 days to appeal. Don't know if he has reasoning enough to do so; regardless he'll have to take a test. (will probably fail). Mom totally on wheelchair/occasional walker - two broken hips, two back surgeries; mental illness issues, and obviously totally dependent upon him. He is now making her choose the family or himself; says he's moving her into apt. he's already rented. It's an hour away both ways. There will be no 24 hour care as he has now; he thinks he can hire people but does not have the money (and is in debt without even mentioning the auto leases). I have been reading up on procedures in Georgia and now wonder, if we get conservativeship, and he moves her anyway (to a different county from where they are now) will he be in civil contempt? If so, what action will be taken? And what will our legal choices be when our time cushion runs out? We have not had to pay so far for conservativeship. He says they're moving tomorrow. State sent someone to evaluate Mom this morning; I am sure they found her upset; lately she's been saying she wants to die, and Dad is furious with all of us and sent letters out to relatives (who have nothing to do with the situation) saying all of us are crazy. We have been calm and loving in our approach. We don't want Mom any more upset than she already is. Are we doomed to hiring an elder attorney?
Or can you start with whoever you used to help you file the conservator paperwork for your mom? Were you able to do that without an attorney? You said it didn't cost you anything, I'd say start with those resources. Good luck!!
Anyway, For APS was a lifesaver. They know what can be done. I wouldn't hesitate to call them and report your father if you have to. Especially because he is the POA for your mother and his own dr indicated that he was not all there. They will know what you can and can't do. I hear horror stories about state agencies but this time they made all the difference.
What about asking the sherrif's office to help collect your mother? If there is a court order they might do it. I wish you all the best with this. keep us posted. peace and luck - BG
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