Mom has vascular dementia, 91. She has too much money to be on Medicaid but would only last a few months on her income as self pay so elder law attorney suggested for me to get paid through a caregiver contract to help spend down her money to qualify for medicaid. Like all caregivers, I am exhausted and getting no help from brother. I am her poa also.
If you do that, you will have much less of a burden in day to day care. She will be taken care of by a team and you will get your life back to a large degree. Why bother with further in home care if you are burned out already? Money for care is nice but it seems like you are past that point.
My MIL was in a wonderful faith-based LTC facility on Medicaid. It was top-notch care and not disgustingly expensive.