Mom has vascular dementia, 91. She has too much money to be on Medicaid but would only last a few months on her income as self pay so elder law attorney suggested for me to get paid through a caregiver contract to help spend down her money to qualify for medicaid. Like all caregivers, I am exhausted and getting no help from brother. I am her poa also.
My MIL was in a wonderful faith-based LTC facility on Medicaid. It was top-notch care and not disgustingly expensive.
If you do that, you will have much less of a burden in day to day care. She will be taken care of by a team and you will get your life back to a large degree. Why bother with further in home care if you are burned out already? Money for care is nice but it seems like you are past that point.