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No one wants to be near the ‘help help help’ resident, it’s a common problem without a solution. One just over the corridor from my MIL for about three years, I think she stopped hearing it after a while. In the same room would be more difficult. Two ‘help’ people together would be good, but the sound travels. Perhaps drugs for the caller, ear plugs for the ‘listener’? At least it stops when they are asleep, it doesn’t go on all night.
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cover9339 Nov 6, 2024
At the facility, the late resident was roomed with a resident who was blind and bedbound. She made no fuss about help help lady, though she did "fuss" with herself, and sometimes hit at the aides that tried to feed and/or dressed her.
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Request, persistently, a change of rooms for your mother. She’s a consumer and deserves to live in peace. You cannot control the medication level of another resident, but you can expect your mother to have a roommate she’s compatible with, who allows her to get appropriate rest
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Geaton777 Nov 3, 2024
I would video it as it is happening and replay it back to the admins, loudly. Keep requesting a room change. Remind them they wouldn't want their loved ones to endure something like this day in and day out.
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https://story.californiasunday.com/covid-life-care-center-kirkland-washington/

As seen, they stick loud aggressive dementia patients with quieter ones who take the brunt of the former’s attacks and antisocial behavior.

Were I you, I would encourage mom to socialize throughout the facility to find a mutually compatible rooomate.
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Chalyse Nov 4, 2024
Amazing, informative, and heart-wrenching article looking back at nursing home ownership, the covid outbreak, and the impacts both have had on so many lives. Thanks for posting it, Peggy Sue.
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Yes, they should put the resident with another resident that does the same.

They did this at the facility, with the resident who would say "help me" cry, then bang on the table to get the aides attention. She was with another resident who was "out of it", (same resident who threw water on the nurse when her husband was discharged before her).
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