Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
I went back and saw that you have, in fact, talked about the same thing over and over. My heart goes out to you.
You live in Seattle. One the most expensive states to live in--the flip side being there is a LOT of Medicaid $$ being thrown around. My DIL is a Dr. in WA and she sees primarily Medicaid patients.
There are SO MANY options available to you--I just went online and looked up low income housing for Seattle and found 40-50 places. Now, I am not saying they are all great and perfect for your mother, but I think with some digging and persistence, you can get her placed in a NH and there would be no money out of your pocket. You have to get approved and be on a waiting list in most of these apartments, but the sooner the better.
Once mother is firmly ensconced in her new place, is it possible for you to get a job and get on with your life? Whether or not mom is happy with this move is really not your fault nor your problem. She's sucking the life out of you. When someone is drowning, you don't jump in the water to save them--you throw them a lifeline. You and mom are BOTH in the water and flailing about and nobody's helping you...cause you have to WANT to be saved.
If she is rational---you have time to work with her to see that living together isn't going to work any more. A rational person can handle that.
My son is an attorney in Seattle--he does not deal with Medicaid, per se, but he could look up what you'd need to begin with. Actually, the forms online are pretty clear and straightforward. I imagine he'd tell you to start the Medicaid application program NOW.
How old are you and do you have kids to care for? Or is it just you and Mom? (Sorry, too many dramas on here to keep track of everyone's situation).
The ball is in your court. There are NEVER "NO" options. Maybe ones we aren't thrilled about, but never "nothing can be done". Your mom cannot force you to care for her, nor can she force you to live with her.
You're also obviously very depressed, as anyone in your situation would be. You can apply for mental health benefits with Medicaid, too. Take advantage of all the resources they can offer--get back on your feet and be independent. That will help you feel better than anything else.
Annabelle-- People want to help you but we need more information other than that you want mom to leave and you're filled with rage.
Think for a bit and write out a thoughtful, point by point statement on how you feel and what your circumstances are. You may be very pleasantly surprised to find there ARE options for you.
Can you get outside for a bit today and decompress? Your anger can't be helping the situation.
You need either power of attorney if she's reasonable, or guardianship if she's not with the caveat that the court would have to find her not able to make rational decisions. You need to begin the process of getting her on Medicaid. Go down to your local county offices and talk to someone, get the paperwork. It can be a lot of work, but the sooner you start, the sooner this will be resolved. Be prepared for hurt feelings.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I went back and saw that you have, in fact, talked about the same thing over and over. My heart goes out to you.
You live in Seattle. One the most expensive states to live in--the flip side being there is a LOT of Medicaid $$ being thrown around. My DIL is a Dr. in WA and she sees primarily Medicaid patients.
There are SO MANY options available to you--I just went online and looked up low income housing for Seattle and found 40-50 places. Now, I am not saying they are all great and perfect for your mother, but I think with some digging and persistence, you can get her placed in a NH and there would be no money out of your pocket. You have to get approved and be on a waiting list in most of these apartments, but the sooner the better.
Once mother is firmly ensconced in her new place, is it possible for you to get a job and get on with your life? Whether or not mom is happy with this move is really not your fault nor your problem. She's sucking the life out of you. When someone is drowning, you don't jump in the water to save them--you throw them a lifeline. You and mom are BOTH in the water and flailing about and nobody's helping you...cause you have to WANT to be saved.
If she is rational---you have time to work with her to see that living together isn't going to work any more. A rational person can handle that.
My son is an attorney in Seattle--he does not deal with Medicaid, per se, but he could look up what you'd need to begin with. Actually, the forms online are pretty clear and straightforward. I imagine he'd tell you to start the Medicaid application program NOW.
How old are you and do you have kids to care for? Or is it just you and Mom? (Sorry, too many dramas on here to keep track of everyone's situation).
The ball is in your court. There are NEVER "NO" options. Maybe ones we aren't thrilled about, but never "nothing can be done". Your mom cannot force you to care for her, nor can she force you to live with her.
You're also obviously very depressed, as anyone in your situation would be. You can apply for mental health benefits with Medicaid, too. Take advantage of all the resources they can offer--get back on your feet and be independent. That will help you feel better than anything else.
Good Luck to you.
People want to help you but we need more information other than that you want mom to leave and you're filled with rage.
Think for a bit and write out a thoughtful, point by point statement on how you feel and what your circumstances are. You may be very pleasantly surprised to find there ARE options for you.
Can you get outside for a bit today and decompress? Your anger can't be helping the situation.
Good luck.
Where are you at?