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Who is to say when I provided them with the necessary documents that they won't uplift the block? They nursing home have mentioned that our mother is incompetent to making any decisions. My mother has been living with me & my kids for 22yrs, don't think she will block us or anyone else for that matter. She enjoys talking and seeing people that she loves. This is a serious issue that I have & I don't know what to do here. Any thoughts?

Typically the only reasons one is kept away from family and friends in a nursing facility is if said family or friends upset the patient and leave them worse off than before they arrived, or if there is proof of any kind of abuse. Does that apply to you or your family?
If not, I would work with the "proxy" to try and come to a compromise so you can keep tabs on what's going on with your mom.
You've not given us all the details here, like why you're not moms POA if she lived with you for 22 years, and who this "proxy" is, so it's really hard to try and help you, but I wish you well in getting this all figured out before it's too late.
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No one can offer advice unless you provide more specifics.
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What kind of documents did the nursing home want from you? Or is it the proxy/POA who wanted documents from you? Is the proxy a family member or friend that you know, or is it someone who was legally appointed, like by a court?
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Who is the “proxy” and proxy what? How do you know that you are “blocked”? What are the “necessary documents”? Have you tried just going to the NH and walking in? You might at least get some clearer information! More information to us might get you some more help about this.
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What documents are you refusing to give a "proxy". I will assume you mean Medical proxy, who has limited control. Their responsibility is to carry out the principles wishes when it is health related. They can talk to Medical staff. This can only be done if the principle is no longer able to make informed decisions and a doctor/s have invoked the proxy.

The Financial POA hold the cards. They do not have to give any info to the Medical proxy in way of Financial. They are not even privy to the Will and if they are, cannot give the details of it. Thats for the Executor after death when both the FPOA and Medical proxy are revoked.

We do need more info.
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