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I am at my mom’s and she has had such a good day, like her old normal self, that I am questioning my own sanity. It is hard to imagine this is the same woman who just a week ago couldn’t remember how my brother was related to her… I need to be reminded that I did the right thing by asking her doctor to take away her driving privileges! She is going to receive that letter within the next few days and man, is she going to be devastated. And right now I feel so bad because she seems like she could drive cross country and back with no issues. What the?

There will be good days. They will not be the norm. Don't question your right decision.
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The doctor can't take away her license. He can ask his patient to not drive but he should notify DMV he feels she should no longer be driving. They send the letter to DMV asking for her to hand in her license. In my State, that took 3 months. My grandson was suffering from seizures from epilepsey. January his PCP informed DMV he should not be driving. It took till March to get the letter and he had till April to turn it in. So don't be surprised if it takes a while to get the letter if its from DMV.
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Enjoy the good day and be grateful for it. Don’t read more into it than it is, the cruelty of dementia continues despite the good day, and the good days will sadly lessen. Wishing you and mom peace
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Don’t back pedal because Mom might be having some good days.
It’s temporary . She will decline.
She can’t be allowed to drive , she could snap back into confusion at any time including while behind the wheel.
You did the right thing.
Dementia is the disease that makes the caregiver feel crazy at times. It’s the disease with tentacles that squeezes the life out of the caregivers as well as the person with dementia.
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