My father has Alzheimer's. He is white and has recently started spewing racist insults at his caregiver(s). I never heard him use racist language earlier in his life. He was born in the 1920s; I assume this is our collective unconscious speaking.
How common is it for caregivers of color to experience racism of this nature from those with dementia? Are you familiar with this phenomena personally? Are there studies or writings on this topic? I'd like to learn more. Thank you.
She talks about this very common phenomenon.
When we are young, we were taught that “forbidden words” and “forbidden speech” (curse words, racial slurs) were wrong. That information is stored in the brain.
With dementia, that particular parts of the brain is one of the parts that dies. Picture a rock with a portion chiseled off. No matter how we want our Loved Ones to “behave”, that portion of the rock (brain) is no longer there. It can’t “learn”, or “do better”.
I’m sorry this is happening to your father, and to you.
When I complained of a racist patient to an old Irish nurse one day she observed "Things change one coffin at a time". Sorry, but that's the truth.
Personally, I think a good caregiver takes the situation with a grain of salt. Seniors say all kinds of crazy stuff.
Believe it or not, white people aren't the only race that use racial slurs towards others. Some of the biggest racists I have ever met don't have white skin.
This question seems like someone writing a paper or something. A dad born in 1920 is NOT 100 years old.
The OP said he was born in the 1920s, not 1920.
To be fair, though, your dad and my mom were products of their times. They aren't racists, per se, but their way of talking isn't appropriate these days.
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