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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We told Mom she was going to a new apartment where she would meet new people. She was a people person. She acclimated very well. I was lucky, she made things easy. She was probably in her 6th stage going into her 7th. We never mentioned home. My daughter would say she was going to work. I would just saying I was leaving and would be back later. The have no conception of time. She was loved by her aides.
You don’t prepare him. Just take him. In our case, I told him we were meeting family members for lunch. We met them in the lobby, went to the memory care unit, ate, and then the staff took him to an activity. His room was ready for him, we left, and he had dinner in the dining room with other residents. The staff made it easy for us.
As I walked my mom into memory care, I said "The doctor wants you to stay here for awhile so you can get extra physical therapy". Mom loved doing PT, so this went over pretty well for her.
The first few weeks were a little rough, and if she asked about going home, I would answer "when the doctor says it's ok". She did not remember that I was the one who walked her into memory care.
She's now been there 11 months and is doing really well - much better than she had being at home with 3 shifts of caregivers. At home she was pretty much a shut-in, shuffling from room to room peering out the windows, having frequent falls, and quickly losing her words.
In memory care, she's made friends, goes on field trips, and takes part in most of the activities. She even plays drums in the MC band and proudly shows me her art projects - something she would've been too self conscious to do prior to dementia. She smiles a lot now too.
I’m sorry you’re in this place. Tell him what will be most accepted and give him the most peace. He has a confused mind, no need to upset or confuse more. Think about what he will be comforted by, a familiar saying, his doctor’s recommendation maybe, or the belief it’s “just for now” Be sure his new space has items that bring him comfort and a sense of belonging. Remind yourself often that you’re doing the best you can to look out for him
Assuming your husband has Alzheimer's which has progressed to the point where he needs full time professional care you probably don't. Many of us have used some introductory fibs when moving our person into care. I told my mom I rented her a room in assisted living for two weeks because the city needed to tear up her sewer line and she couldn't live there while they were working. I told her while loading her into the car. Even time to pack for her "two weeks" would have reduced her to tears and panic. I brought her things over myself later that day. She's been there more than half a year and loves it and has stopped asking about her house at all.
What's your situation? It's really ok to not tell people something that's going to make them upset when they don't have the cognitive ability to process it any more.
"It's really ok to not tell people something that's going to make them upset when they don't have the cognitive ability to process it any more." - well said and so true!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
The first few weeks were a little rough, and if she asked about going home, I would answer "when the doctor says it's ok". She did not remember that I was the one who walked her into memory care.
She's now been there 11 months and is doing really well - much better than she had being at home with 3 shifts of caregivers. At home she was pretty much a shut-in, shuffling from room to room peering out the windows, having frequent falls, and quickly losing her words.
In memory care, she's made friends, goes on field trips, and takes part in most of the activities. She even plays drums in the MC band and proudly shows me her art projects - something she would've been too self conscious to do prior to dementia. She smiles a lot now too.
What's your situation? It's really ok to not tell people something that's going to make them upset when they don't have the cognitive ability to process it any more.