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Husband is due to be released from skilled nursing to home any day now but I am totally worried that I can’t handle things by myself. Caring for a spouse has different issues than caring for a parent.
Have you shared your concerns with the nursing facility he's at now? If not, please do ASAP, as they need to know that you're feeling ill equipped to care for him at home, and if need be they need to help you find placement for him. In your profile it says that your husband has Alzheimer's/dementia. Is he far advanced in that, where you feel he won't be safe in your home, or is he just in the beginning stages? Depending on how you answer that will give you a better clue as to where exactly he needs to be. You know yourself best and how much you can handle, so when making your decision make sure that you're doing not only what is best for your husband but also yourself. It may be for now that you need to just hire some part-time help to come in to give you a break every now and again, or he may require more full-time help. I guess only time will tell.
I cared for my husband in our home for 24 1/2 years of our 26 year marriage after he had a massive stroke at the age of 48. It of course was easier for me in the beginning to care for him, but as he aged and developed more and more health issues, it became very hard. We went through a lot together. When he was diagnosed with vascular dementia in July 2018, and later that year almost died from aspiration pneumonia, he eventually came home completely bedridden and under hospice care. I had the option at that time to place him in a facility, but he really wanted to come home, and being that I knew that the life expectancy of vascular dementia is only 5 years, I wanted him to be home as long as possible. I had to hire an aide to come every morning to put him on the bedside commode, but otherwise I did all of his care(hospice only does about 1% of patient care). He lived another 22 months bedridden in our living room. It's amazing how much we can do for those we love when push comes to shove. But I also learned early on how very important self care was, and that I deserved to take care of myself just as good as I was taking care of him. And that was huge! Without doing that I would never had made it through my journey with my husband. And now that he's no longer here, I am still taking good care of myself. I wish you the very best as you navigate this next chapter in your life. God bless you.
I agree with funkygrandma Please share all your concerns and any questions you have with the Social Worker, the doctor, the nurses. The question I have is how were you handling things before he want into rehab? If you were doing well and had no problems it will be a bit more difficult now. If you were at your wits end, barely holding on and were burnt out before it is not going to be any easier. If this is the case you need to say something NOW. Is your home accessible? Is it safe for him to get around? Can he easily get into a shower? If he needs help is there enough room for the 2 of you and any equipment in the bathroom? I guess the big question is Is it safe for you to care for him at home? The caring for a spouse is a bit different but the dynamics of your relationship change. Yes this is the person you married and have been intimate with but the intimacies change when you are changing a soiled brief, wiping their butt after toileting, inserting a suppository. Yes he is still your husband but it is now different.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
In your profile it says that your husband has Alzheimer's/dementia. Is he far advanced in that, where you feel he won't be safe in your home, or is he just in the beginning stages? Depending on how you answer that will give you a better clue as to where exactly he needs to be. You know yourself best and how much you can handle, so when making your decision make sure that you're doing not only what is best for your husband but also yourself.
It may be for now that you need to just hire some part-time help to come in to give you a break every now and again, or he may require more full-time help. I guess only time will tell.
I cared for my husband in our home for 24 1/2 years of our 26 year marriage after he had a massive stroke at the age of 48. It of course was easier for me in the beginning to care for him, but as he aged and developed more and more health issues, it became very hard. We went through a lot together.
When he was diagnosed with vascular dementia in July 2018, and later that year almost died from aspiration pneumonia, he eventually came home completely bedridden and under hospice care. I had the option at that time to place him in a facility, but he really wanted to come home, and being that I knew that the life expectancy of vascular dementia is only 5 years, I wanted him to be home as long as possible. I had to hire an aide to come every morning to put him on the bedside commode, but otherwise I did all of his care(hospice only does about 1% of patient care). He lived another 22 months bedridden in our living room.
It's amazing how much we can do for those we love when push comes to shove. But I also learned early on how very important self care was, and that I deserved to take care of myself just as good as I was taking care of him. And that was huge! Without doing that I would never had made it through my journey with my husband. And now that he's no longer here, I am still taking good care of myself.
I wish you the very best as you navigate this next chapter in your life. God bless you.
Have you asked them about arranging some home care for him?
The question I have is how were you handling things before he want into rehab? If you were doing well and had no problems it will be a bit more difficult now.
If you were at your wits end, barely holding on and were burnt out before it is not going to be any easier. If this is the case you need to say something NOW.
Is your home accessible? Is it safe for him to get around? Can he easily get into a shower? If he needs help is there enough room for the 2 of you and any equipment in the bathroom?
I guess the big question is
Is it safe for you to care for him at home?
The caring for a spouse is a bit different but the dynamics of your relationship change. Yes this is the person you married and have been intimate with but the intimacies change when you are changing a soiled brief, wiping their butt after toileting, inserting a suppository. Yes he is still your husband but it is now different.