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She paces and paces around me. It makes me very uneasy and I drop things. Then she's mad I am dropping things. I had two 'experts' say I should let her do whatever she wants. I almost fell because she was pacing around me like a shark. Standing over my shoulder. She walks on top of people. She almost got hit by a car because she ran in front of it because she wanted to tell the neighbor her a/c was too loud. I hired a nurse when I went on vacation. The neighbor came over and yelled at me. Apparently I am wrong for telling her she can't do that because it can cause an accident.

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As suggested in your other post, mom needs meds to control her agitation/anxiety behaviors at the least, and placement in a Memory Care Assisted Living at the best.

The 36 Hour Day is a good book to learn about dementia and so is Understanding the Dementia Experience by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller, both available on Amazon. Teepa Snow has some good videos to watch on YouTube about how to deal with dementia behaviors, but the bottom line is, when the loved one is out of control with calming meds, it's time for placement and a geriatric psychiatrist evaluation to determine proper treatment moving forward.

Good luck to you.
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My 16-year old dog started pacing and following me everywhere and was underfoot all the time. In the kitchen it was especially unnerving and dangerous. I called the vet and got her put on medication, which has helped tremendously. My dog feels better. She sleeps through the night. And I feel better knowing that she's not "ON" all the time anymore. Get your mother meds!
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Instead of walking around and having her follow you, make a schedule of things to do for the day for yourself and give her a copy. Do things during the day that keep minimal walking and have you seated or standing in one place and include her in your tasks. Getting older is like a toddler, we're going backwards only we can't pick them up or put them in a crib or playpen.
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