Mom has been in an assisted living facility for the past several weeks. She about an hour and ten minutes away from us and is wanting to coming to our house because she's sooooooooo lonely. She loves me soooooo much and misses me soooooooo much! (BS! Sorry, there are some triggers there for me. She's a master manipulator though the dementia has jacked that up some.) We've been missing each other's calls (another story) and I finally contacted the facility director and told her what's going on. They took her phone away from her (excessive calls) and that's been a relief. Monday is her bday and I'm taking her out, but she's going to hound me to bring her to the house. Picking her up, bringing her to the house, taking her back, and coming back home is about 5 1/2 hours total of driving. I don't want her here. What in the world do I tell her? How do I deal with this kind of thing? I don't see it stopping! If I could, I would turn tail and run as far as I possibly could, but that's not an option. :(
Sometimes it's easier to just make up a story than it is to keep revisiting the same manipulative questions all the time. It's too exhausting. Stick to the Reno and dust and debris story for as long as necessary.
I used to tell my mother I was working full time when I wasn't. Just to give me a break from the constant phone calls and expectations she'd have that I was "sitting around at home doing nothing" when I SHOULD be visiting her. It was too much. We never got along well, yet I was her BFF when she wanted company. In an AL filled with activities and friends to hang around with.