My husband is a retired federal atorney, In the early stages of decline he argues with me that I am being unreasonable. I have been in therapy TWICE because initially, I was convinced that I had a problem, Our income tax had not been filed for a few years and as soon as I sent in some documents he skipped ahead and did the last year. He is refusing to show me the documents.
I am between a rock and ahrd place and it hurts.
Also, how long have you been married and did he gaslight you before this? It might not be dementia. It might be a personality disorder.
How old is he? You say he's in the early stages of decline... so does this mean he has a medical diagnosis in his charts?
Are you his PoA? If not, is anyone? These are two very important pieces of information for context so that we can give you the best guidance.
Do you file jointly? This would require you to sign the documents. Do you know who the accountant is? If your husband has a medical diagnosis of decline then I would show this or the PoA to the accountant with the discrete instructions to not work with your husband any further.
Please provide more information.
One way a spouse can cheat is to delay the refund into the next year. Then, they
receive the refund after the separation and divorce.