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Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
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You need to get caregiving relief. Have you ever contact social services for your county? Your husband may qualify for an Elder Waiver to provide in-home aids (it won't be more than a few hours a week, but better than nothing). They can also provide other services, like light housekeeping, food prep and hygiene help.
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Consider getting your husband assessed for LTC at a facility. If he also qualifies financially, then his care will be 100% covered by Medicaid (for his medical care) and custodial care (by most but not all of his SS income). As the spouse, him being on Medicaid would not impoverish you.
Then you will have your life back and you can go visit him as much as you wish. Once you have time you can slowly go out and "shop" for new hobbies and friends.
Start slowly to make a life for yourself. You may want to start with hobbies at home. Sewing, knitting, sketching, painting, making earrings? Anything that brings peace and pleasure.
Slowly move out in the world. Check out your local libraries. Mine have many many programs and classes. Check out your local senior centers. I am an atheist, but I myself, in a situation where I was desperate to meet people, might join a Unitarian or other Church for the community it provides.
Try to think out of the box of those things that bring you pleasure. Many find pleasure in volunteering in Animal Shelters, libraries, and etc.; helping others builds our own esteem enormously.
You might consider a good cognitive therapist in an effort to explore some small steps forward for yourself. I wish you the very best of luck; you are unlikely to change hubby, so share those few things you can with him, meals, reading, TV programs, and make your own life around him.
My Mom belonged to a Church for over 50 yrs. I was a member too. When I was taking care of her, I got no calls from my minister to see how she was. The womans group visited every so often, but no one asked if I needed someone to sit with Mom so I could run errands or just to get out.
Do you have friends that you can invite to your home to have a morning coffee group? Call it a "Book Club" if you want. Get together 1 time a week or every 2 weeks, whatever works. Check with your local Senior Center and find out if there are any programs that would help provide a caregiver that could stay with your husband while you get out. Maybe there is an Adult Day Program that he could attend. If your husband is a Veteran Look he may qualify for benefits through the VA. Contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission or your States Department of Veterans Affairs or your closest VA any of these can help determine if he qualifies for benefits.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Consider getting your husband assessed for LTC at a facility. If he also qualifies financially, then his care will be 100% covered by Medicaid (for his medical care) and custodial care (by most but not all of his SS income). As the spouse, him being on Medicaid would not impoverish you.
Then you will have your life back and you can go visit him as much as you wish. Once you have time you can slowly go out and "shop" for new hobbies and friends.
Blessings to you!
Slowly move out in the world. Check out your local libraries. Mine have many many programs and classes. Check out your local senior centers. I am an atheist, but I myself, in a situation where I was desperate to meet people, might join a Unitarian or other Church for the community it provides.
Try to think out of the box of those things that bring you pleasure. Many find pleasure in volunteering in Animal Shelters, libraries, and etc.; helping others builds our own esteem enormously.
You might consider a good cognitive therapist in an effort to explore some small steps forward for yourself. I wish you the very best of luck; you are unlikely to change hubby, so share those few things you can with him, meals, reading, TV programs, and make your own life around him.
Get together 1 time a week or every 2 weeks, whatever works.
Check with your local Senior Center and find out if there are any programs that would help provide a caregiver that could stay with your husband while you get out.
Maybe there is an Adult Day Program that he could attend.
If your husband is a Veteran Look he may qualify for benefits through the VA. Contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission or your States Department of Veterans Affairs or your closest VA any of these can help determine if he qualifies for benefits.