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Is there a therapist you can talk to? Caregiving is very draining. Sometimes we need someone to help us work through our thoughts and feelings so we can be more productive
I suggest you contact your Area Agency on Aging even though your daughter is much younger than the age group they normally help. They may know of programs your daughter would qualify for because of her disability, including some respite care days/hours so you could take a break. If there's a rehab hospital nearby they often have lists of support groups and services. I encourage you to engage in a support group for yourself and find one for your daughter too.
When my SIL suffered small strokes at age 42, I know depression was a major hindrance to her recovery efforts. Depression is both a chemical reaction to the injured brain and a normal reaction to becoming disabled at such a young age. Is your daughter struggling with depression too? Maybe not exerting much effort in PT/OT programs? Or not pushing to do as much self-care as she maybe could? We pushed SIL as much as we could and tried getting her out and involved in pre-stroke activities but nothing seemed to help much until she became a grandmother. Suddenly she wanted to be self-sufficient so she could babysit or visit her grandchild. Witnessing the depression and disability was very difficult for the rest of the family too.
I'm sorry you are reaching burn out. I think almost every caregiver feels that way at least once, sometimes from the physical demands of care giving but often from the emotional side of things too. Has something happened recently to increase the care giving load or change your circumstances?
The Area Agency on Aging of NorthEast Florida is your contact for assistance and referrals. Their number is (904)391-6600. Their website is www.eldersource.org. They can hopefully let you know what resources are available to you and your sister. Her age is not a factor. In the meantime, please know that you’ve found a wonderful forum for encouragement, support, and advice. Hugs.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Somewhere down the line, something will click and resonate with you and you will be able to figure it out.
If you are able to speak to a therapist it may help also.
I wish you well. Take care.
When my SIL suffered small strokes at age 42, I know depression was a major hindrance to her recovery efforts. Depression is both a chemical reaction to the injured brain and a normal reaction to becoming disabled at such a young age. Is your daughter struggling with depression too? Maybe not exerting much effort in PT/OT programs? Or not pushing to do as much self-care as she maybe could? We pushed SIL as much as we could and tried getting her out and involved in pre-stroke activities but nothing seemed to help much until she became a grandmother. Suddenly she wanted to be self-sufficient so she could babysit or visit her grandchild. Witnessing the depression and disability was very difficult for the rest of the family too.
I'm sorry you are reaching burn out. I think almost every caregiver feels that way at least once, sometimes from the physical demands of care giving but often from the emotional side of things too. Has something happened recently to increase the care giving load or change your circumstances?
They can hopefully let you know what resources are available to you and your sister. Her age is not a factor. In the meantime, please know that you’ve found a wonderful forum for encouragement, support, and advice. Hugs.
https://www.stroke.org/en/help-and-support/for-family-caregivers/caregiver-resources
It's from the American Stroke Association, and some of the resources look helpful - I hope it will be a start, at least.