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I find that I’m resenting having to do it as I work full time as a teacher and only have weekends off.

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No, you don't have too.

No. It is a complete sentence. Want to be nicer? No, I can't possibly do that.

Mom, you need to make a list and I will handle errands one day a week, biweekly, monthly, whatever works for you. No more daily runs.

If she can not live alone without being propped up, she needs to hire aides or go to a facility.

Caregiving only works when it works for everyone involved. Boundaries must be set and enforced if you don't want to be her step and fetch slave.
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I say this a bunch, but do not be a doormat! Find a way to get alternate care for your mother. It sounds like she needs to be in assisted living. She may not like it, but none of us like the inevitable changes in our bodies and lives that come with aging.
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Sounds like it’s time to get some caregiver help. Even just a couple of hours can make a lot of difference. Try contacting a service close to you to find a comparable personal support worker for your mom so you’re not so run down.
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Mom can hire a caregiver that can come in and do the tasks that you mention.
Is anyone there to care for mom during the week? If commodes are only emptied and cleaned only on weekends it might be time to have caregivers come in more often or look for Assisted Living for mom.
A caregiver can also give her a bath or shower more often than 1 time a week. This might be important for keeping her skin in good condition.
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Hey thank you all:)) we have carers in during the week for my man but I have to do weekends I don’t really get a choice . My brother gives her meals at the weekends but that’s it.There is no way she would go into a home as we call it here in Ireland where there is 24 hour care. It is also 900 euro a week for a facility like that here.
I guess she just thinks it’s my duty as she did it for her mother ie the good daughter thing.
however my boyfriend is only home every six weeks so I have asked to ask for private carers for the Friday and Saturday nights for two weeks at least and I will still do the Saturday morning and Sunday morning and night so she has agreed to that as they are my days off!
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