I have been living with the since Sept. I am married and this is causing a lot of strain on our marriage. We live in the same town and my siblings all live 700 miles away. I have no support team. If I take him to my home a different environment will cause additional stress yet my husband will not move to myparents home which is one level with large baths and doorways. My husband’s daughter (28yrs.) also lives with us in our 3 bed 2 bath home. My father will have to share her small bathroom and his bedroom at my house is nursery size. Any advice would be welcomed.
You must be both exhausted and grieving, so having trained professionals take over the physical care, plus being back with your husband in your own home, are probably essential for both your physical and mental health.
Best of luck to you and my condolences on the loss of your dear mom.
If your dad can no longer care for himself, then truly it's time for him to be placed into an assisted living facility or skilled nursing if needed where he will be looked after 24/7, and where you can get back to being the wife your husband deserves.
And if money is an issue you can apply for Medicaid for your dad.
This sounds more like a marriage problem than anything else, so if you're not happy in your marriage perhaps you need some marriage counseling or perhaps even a divorce.
Spouses must ALWAYS come before the care of any parent. Period, end of sentence.