
My sister is POA for mom. She is also the Executor of the will and the trustee successor. (Long story about she got all those appointments.) My question is, once mom dies, who much control does she have over the funeral plans?
My mom and dad had pre-paid for a funeral home, a cremation, each had picked out an urn, and selected the cemetery. I have their paid receipts. I know when someone dies, the POA ends. The last copy of any estate plan and Will I saw did NOT include any of the funeral details. So, how much influence would my sister have in arranging any plans of her own for mom that would deviate from what is in the documented plans mom made five years ago?
When my dad died, my sister refused to follow dad's documented plans and her husband (my BIL) kept telling the staff at the funeral home that my sister was POA and they would not even talk to me. It was extremely difficult and draining to try to fulfill my parents documented wishes when nobody would listen to me. Thanks.
Either way, can you get together with your mother and sister to discuss what your mother's wishes currently are? If there are other siblings, it would help if any of them could be there too.
What reasons, if any, did your sister have for changing the plans?
I'm sorry this caused extra distress at the time of your father's passing.