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My brother is active and loves to have fun riding his harley or out on his boat but, his diabetes is getting the best of him. He just had part of his foot amputated. He needs a little help with his meds and the basics, little laundry a few dishes. shopping. He has a extra room and could pay something Im not sure what. Is there anyone that would be willing to talk with him or point him in the right direction.

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I don't understand why brother needs help? You said partial amputation of his foot. There are prosthetics for something like this. If he took care of himself before the amputation, why can he not now?
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Why can't your brother interview and hire someone himself? If he's capable, it's much better for him to choose his caregiver. That way he's more likely to find someone who is compatible. If he hires through an agency, they do the initial vetting and screening. That might be the best way.

If he doesn't hire through an agency, brother must provide insurance, tax withholding, etc. himself. This can be tedious. It is illegal to pay under the table. ILLEGAL. The last thing brother needs is trouble with the IRS.

Good luck!
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One of the best pieces of advice you can give your brother is to use a continuous glucose monitor and use that info to dose himself for his insulin. It sounds like his sugar is out of control on a regular basis, which can be deadly. If he has lost a foot already, he needs help with controlling his sugars.
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susanlong209, welcome to the forum. For someone to live-in to help your brother, he would need to pay that person a living wage, take out social security taxes, deal with a W2 form, etc. plus get a workman's comp insurance policy in case that person gets hurt on the job. Would he be able to afford that?


Or would it be better to hire someone (not live-in) that can come over a few hours a day to help your brother? Then he can check with Care.com to see if someone would be able to help at a reasonable cost.


Did your brother had rehabilitation after his foot surgery? Hopefully he did or is scheduled to do so. Rehab is great at showing how he can manage after his foot surgery with walking, stairs, how to do laundry, etc.
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Be wary of finding eager live in help. They often come from needing to escape a bad situation and may be hard to deal with, things like domestic violence or poverty that become overwhelming in the home they are supposed to be helping. It’s also very expensive. A more realistic scenario is part time help or brother moving to where help is available
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Have him look on Care.com or search for care agencies near him. A good way to find reputable places is to join Nextdoor.com and ask for recommendations. These would be from his actual non-anonymous neighbors in his actual community.

If your brother isn't doing this himself, then maybe he hasn't yet figured out he needs help? Or is in denial? If you are helping him you need to back away and allow him to feel the need to hire someone. As long as you are his only solution he won't see the need himself or look for help on his own. Don't enable him, he's a grown man. You can't want his care more than he wants it himself.

FYI having a live-in aid is not a good idea for many reasons. You can find those discussion threads here on this forum, even recently posted.
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