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She also refuses live-in help or to live with anyone else? POA has medical and financial POA. Mom is unable to cook, clean and needs assistance with daily living. She has people come and bring food or take her out to eat. What can be done to get her into a facility?

Assuming you have both POA and a diagnosis your next step is visiting facilities and picking one, just you not your mom. When you have picked a place (or two, for a backup) start working with their "admissions" person. They will guide you every step of the way on what paperwork needs to be filled out by whom, what kind of further assessment the facility requires, necessary random things like a current TB test and when you get all those things done you just move her.
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Is your PoA authority activated? In other words is there some criteria needed to trigger your authority, like a medical diagnosis of impairment sufficient to need management?

If so it no longer matters if she agrees to go, you come up with a creative solution to move her. Start with talking to her primary doctor about medication for anxiety, depression or agitation. Then work with the facility admins on a plan to get her there.
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You (or whoever is the POA) could make the arrangements with the facility and then take her "out for lunch" and something else like a movie or visit to the park or whatever, while someone moves her essentials in. Then drive her to the place, saying you're going to visit someone. Or whatever works. It's called "therapeutic fibbing" because it is fibbing but is what they need.

You might have to pay extra for a caregiver to be with her 24/7 the first couple of days, to help her get oriented and calm her down, as best as possible. Talk to the facility; they might have staff who do this, or they can recommend an agency that they use.

It won't be easy but it will be best for her in the long run.
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Slartibartfast 17 hours ago
This is what I did. If you wait for a person with Alzheimer's to agree you're both going to be sitting there until the end of time.
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