It's a huge adjustment but I'll figure it out. But my son gets very frustrated and angry whenever I forget something or make an error. I feel humiliated and hopeless. My memory isn't likely to get better so am I just supposed to accept his harsh judgment -- a constant reminder that I am less than I used to be and very unworthy. It hurts like hell.
You are not the problem: your son now needs to educate himself about cognitive decline and memory loss. There are strategies to use so that your interactions are more peaceful and productive. I understand him totally, as I was him not long ago. It takes a while to change how we relate to our LOs with this issue... I've built up 66 years of a pattern with my Mom, seeing her one way only and expecting her to be a certain way. It will take him time to practice thinking before he reacts or responds to you. He will get there eventually, but he needs to be intentional about it.
Teepa Snow has some very good videos on YouTube you can refer him to. May you both gain peace in yours on this journey.
So I understand where he might be in his head.
I am sure as a son his is having problems with the idea that
1 You are mortal. We all are but we don't want to think about losing someone.
2. You will continue to decline, there is no cure.
3. You begin to wonder about every little thing..is this the dementia or did I simply forget I was supposed to meet Jane for lunch?, is this the dementia or did I just forget where I put my phone? Is this the dementia or did I really forget milk when I went to the store? I could go on and on all the little things that you forget and that everyone sometimes forgets...is it normal or is it dementia.
If you had never been told by a doctor you have cognitive decline would he even worry about something you forget?
No you do not have to accept his harsh judgement.
You can tell him that you do not like it when he talks to you that way.
Tell him it makes you feel less than.....
Ask him to hold his judgement and if he can't you can ask him to leave. Or if you are with him ask him to bring you home.
He does have a lot to learn.
I understand it is scary for him. but it is scary for you as well.
By the way if you are not seeing a therapist please consider it. It will be nice for you to talk and vent in a judgement free space.
Also talk to your doctor about your thoughts on this.
You have this listed under depression and mental health. Depression is a big concern and there are medications that might help. There are side effects with each medication and or supplement so be aware of that as well.
And if he can't/won't do that, then perhaps you may have to tell him not to contact you until he can be more understanding, as you deserve so much better.
May God bless you and keep you.
drink Keto coffee take Ginko biloba ,ginseng
Have a lil notebook and write down important things
Your son is very rude and seems abusive I'm sorry 😞
Btw some ppl get sick from mold exposure and one of the symptoms is memory loss