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So I was recently on vacation and was chatting with the gentleman who brought our room service, he told us how he takes care of his elderly parents in their 90s I believe…very interesting, he bought them an Alexa so they could ask it questions about all sorts of things, helps them remember endless things, is a huge source of information and entertainment. He works and is not able to be there at all times. Maybe explore an Alexa to help with your memory. Good luck :)
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Direct your son to this forum, maybe even this thread.

You are not the problem: your son now needs to educate himself about cognitive decline and memory loss. There are strategies to use so that your interactions are more peaceful and productive. I understand him totally, as I was him not long ago. It takes a while to change how we relate to our LOs with this issue... I've built up 66 years of a pattern with my Mom, seeing her one way only and expecting her to be a certain way. It will take him time to practice thinking before he reacts or responds to you. He will get there eventually, but he needs to be intentional about it.

Teepa Snow has some very good videos on YouTube you can refer him to. May you both gain peace in yours on this journey.
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As a society "we" have always had a problem with "mental health issues". This could be any diagnosis. It is not something that people want to talk about.
So I understand where he might be in his head.
I am sure as a son his is having problems with the idea that
1 You are mortal. We all are but we don't want to think about losing someone.
2. You will continue to decline, there is no cure.
3. You begin to wonder about every little thing..is this the dementia or did I simply forget I was supposed to meet Jane for lunch?, is this the dementia or did I just forget where I put my phone? Is this the dementia or did I really forget milk when I went to the store? I could go on and on all the little things that you forget and that everyone sometimes forgets...is it normal or is it dementia.
If you had never been told by a doctor you have cognitive decline would he even worry about something you forget?

No you do not have to accept his harsh judgement.
You can tell him that you do not like it when he talks to you that way.
Tell him it makes you feel less than.....
Ask him to hold his judgement and if he can't you can ask him to leave. Or if you are with him ask him to bring you home.

He does have a lot to learn.
I understand it is scary for him. but it is scary for you as well.

By the way if you are not seeing a therapist please consider it. It will be nice for you to talk and vent in a judgement free space.
Also talk to your doctor about your thoughts on this.
You have this listed under depression and mental health. Depression is a big concern and there are medications that might help. There are side effects with each medication and or supplement so be aware of that as well.
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I'm glad that you are now somewhere safe and will be looked after 24/7. Your son needs to educate himself more about the disease of dementia, so he will be a bit more understanding.
And if he can't/won't do that, then perhaps you may have to tell him not to contact you until he can be more understanding, as you deserve so much better.
May God bless you and keep you.
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You need to try ketogenic diet ,ditch white sugar take MCT oil ,coconut oil
drink Keto coffee take Ginko biloba ,ginseng
Have a lil notebook and write down important things
Your son is very rude and seems abusive I'm sorry 😞


Btw some ppl get sick from mold exposure and one of the symptoms is memory loss
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Deb555 Sep 5, 2025
Please do not diagnose problems and recommend treatments unless you are her medical professional.
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I’m so sorry you’re feeling that way. What you’re going through is already hard enough without feeling judged on top of it. Your son may be scared and overwhelmed too, but that doesn’t make it okay for him to take it out on you. You are not ‘less’ or unworthy — you’re still you, just facing a tough diagnosis. If you can, maybe let him know calmly how his words make you feel, or ask the staff to help guide those conversations. You deserve compassion and respect in this chapter of your life.
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