Not a question. I worked in a nursing home in college 50 years ago. Some of my patients were very confused and combative when they needed showering or bathing. When my MIL needed dementia care, I got her a massage once a week. She was still pretty with it, but I wanted her to get used to more physical touch as she’d been widowed for 20+ years.
If I went more times it would feel less awkward I suppose .
But I wouldn’t force anyone to try it that didn’t want to . They won’t be relaxed , it won’t be enjoyable . I could see seniors especially those with dementia not liking it .
I found that a facial or scalp treatment did not feel awkward . And each one alone is cheaper than a massage .
I can not stand anyone touching my feet , very ticklish, 😂😂. I have never had a mani - pedi . I do my own .
There are many other strategies to get unwilling adults to shower/bathe.
I've been given massage gift cards over the years and have just given them away to friends who I knew would enjoy them.
Did your MIL allow showers with help once she got ALOT more confused ?
And when she was much more confused was she still allowing massages , or had you stopped those ? I could see someone who is confused feeling vulnerable laying down on a table face down not being able to see what was about to occur .