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Hospice is end of life care. There is now no reason whatsoever that your mother should not eat what she likes in her last days on earth. Let her enjoy those things she loves, that she has likely long been deprived of.
Thank you for your honest and respectful answer. I appreciate that you didn't make me feel stupid about my question and that I was trying to deprive my mom of any enjoyment. I have been trying to give her the foods that she likes, but her tastes have changed. It seems as if the only thing she wants now are hamburgers, Jimmy deans breakfast sandwiches, fruit and yogurt. She will also drink the glucerna shakes. I didn't want to do anything that would worsen her condition. She also has pitting edema.
When my dad was on home hospice, we encouraged him to eat whatever he felt like having without restrictions. Hospice means end of life care, part of that care is enjoying things that bring pleasure and favorite foods are certainly among them. I wish you both peace
Let her eat whatever she wants, whenever she wants! You intend to restrict her diet when shes at end of life on hospice???? Now's not the time, my friend.
Let her eat what she wants. You can try to limit some things but really is it worth it to get in to a disagreement now? You can try to put the burgers on low carb buns, get 0 sugar ketchup and do all the things that you know you should do but.... I doubt it will make a whole lot of difference. Let her enjoy her burger, fries and, a milk shake
I know it's hard to make decisions that seem "unhealthy" when a person is at the end of their life, whether or not the person is receiving hospice care. It might help you to keep in mind that at this stage of life, anything a person eats is providing them with nourishment.
Wait...what??? You want to restrict your moms diet when she's dying? PLEASE let the poor woman eat what she wants, when she wants and if she wants. Don't you think that's the least she deserves before she leaves this world for the next? I sure do.
As she is on hospice already, I’d offer her anything she feels like eating. With time, this volume consumed of everything will be less. Let her enjoy the food and drink she likes for as long as she’s able.
My dad died with ckd and dementia. He enjoyed Big Macs and German sausages and wine until one day he didn’t. By a few days after he started hospice, he was asking only for pedilyte and occasional ice cream. That day will come for mom, but until it’s here, let her enjoy burgers and breakfast sandwiches.
I agree, give her anything she wants. As we age, we lose our tastebuds and the last ones to go are the ones that taste for sweet. May you receive wisdom and peace in your heart as you go through hospice with your Mom.
In the last months of my husband's life, it was easier to just let him eat what he wanted and not worry about whether it was nourishing or healthy. He basically ate three foods -- steamed crabs, pizza, and buffalo wings. Even as they took him from our home to a hospice house (hospice at home wasn't going well), he requested someone bring a pizza to him for lunch! He ate four bites and that was the last food he ate. At least I know he got what he wanted. Focus on keeping mom content for the rest of her days. Give her whatever makes her happy.
Hospice nurse or Dr. Will advise when there are things that your mom can no longer have as her condition decline. My father loved strawberry shakes but the day came when he could no longer swallow..they told me whatever I could bring so that's what I did. As for your comment that you don't want to worsen her condition.... she is at worst case scenario now. You won't worsen it.... this is a hard time, especially if you've not been through it before. Stay strong.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You can try to limit some things but really is it worth it to get in to a disagreement now?
You can try to put the burgers on low carb buns, get 0 sugar ketchup and do all the things that you know you should do but....
I doubt it will make a whole lot of difference.
Let her enjoy her burger, fries and, a milk shake
PLEASE let the poor woman eat what she wants, when she wants and if she wants. Don't you think that's the least she deserves before she leaves this world for the next? I sure do.
As for your comment that you don't want to worsen her condition.... she is at worst case scenario now. You won't worsen it.... this is a hard time, especially if you've not been through it before. Stay strong.