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If you are her guardian, it is my understanding that you are as responsible for her as if she were a child. If someone was to call APS, you could be held liable for neglect. She would be far better looked after in memory care or a NH.
Unfortunately, mom is on the mean side. She is 92 and doesn't want anyone to do anything for her. She is not bed bound and gets around pretty good on her own. I am her guardian and conservator and of course I'm being accused of taking her money, etc. I get cursed out, etc. It is very difficult to deal with her. She lives in her own home. Because my sibblings feel if we move her it may be to traumatic for her so I'm trying to let her live her life there. I have a 45 year old nephew that is more or less her care giver. I just do all her shopping, clothes buying, paying her bills and keeping track of her funds. I'm the only one that does anything for her out of the 4 of us. She doesn't eat well. I take restr food to her 3 times a week. I buy the same groceries to her every 2 weeks because she will only eat certain foods and a ton of sweets. On top of all of this she has to have a beer everyday! I almost feel like I live there with her. I feel for my nephew because he gets the brunt of the complaints, etc. I just found out she's misplaced her wallet. I was over yesterday and tried to look for it in her room. She comes in there and tells me to get out, she doesn't need my help. I try not to upset her because my fear is something will happen to her if I upset her to much. I'm at my wits end! Her room smells of urine. I thinking of just forcing my way into her room while she goes to get her hair done of Saturday and try to clean up her room as much as possible while she's gone. What would you do? No help from the sibblings!
pepper1, if your Mom is in fairly good health she could live to be 102... are you willing and able to keep up this pace for another 10 years?
What does your Mom's grandson [your nephew] do for her on a regular basis? Does your Mom communicate with anyone of her own generation? I guess going to the hair dresser once a week is socializing, but is it enough for her?
If your Mom was in a retirement community [or continuing care] she would be around more people of her own generation, with more things in common. She could form new friendships, and have time to learn her way around the community while she still can. I realize getting her there is another story, and she may dig her heels in. Some places offer free lunches to prospective clients. She might like the place. Then she won't be dwelling on things to complain about.
And your nephew could jumpstart his own life and be around his own peer group.
Good luck, many times our parents get stuck in a rut and refuse to doing anything about it. They are afraid of change.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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How is your mom preventing you from washing her linens and cleaning her room?
A little more information would help you to get more detailed responses.
What does your Mom's grandson [your nephew] do for her on a regular basis? Does your Mom communicate with anyone of her own generation? I guess going to the hair dresser once a week is socializing, but is it enough for her?
If your Mom was in a retirement community [or continuing care] she would be around more people of her own generation, with more things in common. She could form new friendships, and have time to learn her way around the community while she still can. I realize getting her there is another story, and she may dig her heels in. Some places offer free lunches to prospective clients. She might like the place. Then she won't be dwelling on things to complain about.
And your nephew could jumpstart his own life and be around his own peer group.
Good luck, many times our parents get stuck in a rut and refuse to doing anything about it. They are afraid of change.