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Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
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By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
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You tell her that she needs to go to a lovely care facility where there will be great food, entertainment, outings and friends. You thereby save some family member from the misery of home caregiving your mom.
Read some of the posts from this site that will show you how family caregivers bravely and naively tackle the task of taking care of a dementia-patient loved one at home. Bone-weary caregivers come here wanting out of the family gig because they've lost their own sanity along the way. Like when mom wanders outside and ends up on a major highway. Or dad pees in every floor vent in the house. Or keeps the household awake all night every night screaming or wailing. I'm not making this up.
Take the out that mom's giving you and find her a wonderful place where professionals will care for her with kindness and long experience with her type of dementia.
"Oh but MY mom wouldn't do any of those things and we love her so much we can't let her go to one of those horrible places!" Yes, she would. And yes, you could. And they are not horrible. They are a godsend to families who find it unsustainable to take care of relatives at home. There's no shame in admitting that you are not a professional and cannot provide the services at home. Go visit some memory care facilities before you make your lifetime commitment to take care of mom at home. You may be glad you did.
You tell her what you need to in order to make sure she is safe. You tell her what you need to in order to make her less anxious and upset. Is she living with you, or you with her or is she living alone??? You can tell her that she is with you, or you are with her for "a little while" If she is living alone that has to change. If Memory Care facility is an option that removes the "living with family" out of the equation.
It is very possible that what is in her mind is that she never wanted to have to rely on family members to care for her. (and I get it if that is the case I would not want a family member to have to care for me)
This is a good way for you to help transition her to a memory care facility. Let her know her new home will be comfortable and she will get to make new friends. Make it into an adventure for her.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Read some of the posts from this site that will show you how family caregivers bravely and naively tackle the task of taking care of a dementia-patient loved one at home. Bone-weary caregivers come here wanting out of the family gig because they've lost their own sanity along the way. Like when mom wanders outside and ends up on a major highway. Or dad pees in every floor vent in the house. Or keeps the household awake all night every night screaming or wailing. I'm not making this up.
Take the out that mom's giving you and find her a wonderful place where professionals will care for her with kindness and long experience with her type of dementia.
"Oh but MY mom wouldn't do any of those things and we love her so much we can't let her go to one of those horrible places!" Yes, she would. And yes, you could. And they are not horrible. They are a godsend to families who find it unsustainable to take care of relatives at home. There's no shame in admitting that you are not a professional and cannot provide the services at home. Go visit some memory care facilities before you make your lifetime commitment to take care of mom at home. You may be glad you did.
You tell her what you need to in order to make her less anxious and upset.
Is she living with you, or you with her or is she living alone???
You can tell her that she is with you, or you are with her for "a little while"
If she is living alone that has to change. If Memory Care facility is an option that removes the "living with family" out of the equation.
It is very possible that what is in her mind is that she never wanted to have to rely on family members to care for her. (and I get it if that is the case I would not want a family member to have to care for me)