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Tell him the doctor said he can’t drive because he’s blind .Rinse and repeat as necessary . Let him be angry. It is not your job to please him. I for one am totally over the madness when a very elderly person keeps trying to drive when they shouldn’t. My grandfather took my great grandfather’s car away the first time he got lost. There was no drama or feeling bad about it . It was just taken away as a matter of fact . I would not put up with any drama over this . He’s blind so no driving , it’s that simple .
Yes, you did the right thing and he WILL get over it. Even if he doesn't, you still did the right thing. If he's hating you over this, then this speaks to his cognitive condition, which is impaired.
Your father doesn't hate you, he's just mad that one more thing has been taken away regarding his independence, and that can be a hard pill for some of us to swallow. You did the right thing, and are keeping innocent people safe on the roadways by taking his car and not taking the chance of him killing someone with it. So rest in the knowledge of that. And just give your father time, with having dementia, eventually he'll forget all about it.
If you allowed him to keep the car and he hurt himself or someone else, then you would hate yourself and never get over it. You are now the adult in this relationship, and that means making hard and unpopular decisions.
Yes, it's hurtful that he is angry at you, but he is old, and old age includes so many losses and many things to be angry about.
Often that anger is directed to whoever is closest, because he is no longer capable of understanding logic and reason. It's not that different than a parent taking a favorite toy away from a child, and having that child cry "I hate you!" They don't really hate you, they just hate the strong emotions they are feeling.
Commiserate with him and blame it on a 3rd party like the DMV, the law, or the government, so he feels like you're on his side.
My 86 mum has glaucoma and Parkinson’s - DVLA said she would need to take a test which we “missed the date” of signing up for it. mum was very mixed about it at first and later would say she did the wrong thing by “giving up” her licence. she’s ok with it now id much rather have her peed off at me than killing someone in an accident you did completely the right thing and he’ll come round xx
You did the right thing. Let him pout. My dad tried a similar "punishment". Don't play into it. I said, "I know that is hard and you're angry. When you want to see me again let me know. I love you." Then I left. Let him deal with this demand, himself. He'll come around.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Too bad, so sad.
He will get over it eventually. You very obviously did the right thing.
Let him be angry. It is not your job to please him.
I for one am totally over the madness when a very elderly person keeps trying to drive when they shouldn’t.
My grandfather took my great grandfather’s car away the first time he got lost. There was no drama or feeling bad about it . It was just taken away as a matter of fact .
I would not put up with any drama over this . He’s blind so no driving , it’s that simple .
You did the right thing, and are keeping innocent people safe on the roadways by taking his car and not taking the chance of him killing someone with it. So rest in the knowledge of that.
And just give your father time, with having dementia, eventually he'll forget all about it.
Is he frequently angry? If so, talk to his doctor(s) about medications to calm him. If it's just over this thing, he'll get over it eventually.
If you allowed him to keep the car and he hurt himself or someone else, then you would hate yourself and never get over it. You are now the adult in this relationship, and that means making hard and unpopular decisions.
Yes, it's hurtful that he is angry at you, but he is old, and old age includes so many losses and many things to be angry about.
Often that anger is directed to whoever is closest, because he is no longer capable of understanding logic and reason. It's not that different than a parent taking a favorite toy away from a child, and having that child cry "I hate you!"
They don't really hate you, they just hate the strong emotions they are feeling.
Commiserate with him and blame it on a 3rd party like the DMV, the law, or the government, so he feels like you're on his side.
id much rather have her peed off at me than killing someone in an accident
you did completely the right thing and he’ll come round xx
Let him deal with this demand, himself. He'll come around.
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