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You put your post under "elder abuse"......do you really consider it abuse for the daughter to not allow friends to visit mom? It's not enough she's housing, feeding and caring for this woman, she also must be her entertainment committee in order for others to not consider her abusive???
Your friend should seriously move into Assisted Living where she'll have her own apartment and can entertain whomever she'd like whenever she'd like. Then you can talk about how abusive the daughter is for "putting" her mother in a "home".
I took care of a relative who had a disabling stroke for 2 years. I didn’t have time to entertain visitors, though they showed up anyway. One couple even brought their (uninvited) dog and stayed for 4 exhausting hours - exhausting for the patient and for me.
None of these people ever offered to help with all I had to do, or provided a meal, or did a chore. I suggest that you offer to help the daughter. Take them a meal. Don’t eat their food because the daughter is probably struggling to shop and cook while she acts as care slave to mom. Offer to stay with mom while daughter gets out of the house. Offer to run errands. You’ll be more welcome if you do not add to their burden but lift some of it from their shoulders. They are in crisis mode, and it will continue for a long time.
Suggest to your friend that she move to a care facility rather than expect her daughter to provide care in her home. Friend will make friends there, and she’ll enjoy the more active lifestyle. Then you can visit her whenever you want.
Agreed. Help the daughter and indirectly (directly) you help the person. Bring a meal. Clean up after and wash all the dishes and put them away. Fold a load of laundry while you visit. Don’t expect daughter to entertain you. She gets a break when you are there. See crumbs? Sweep. Or vacuum. Nails need cleaning. Do a little soap and soak and make it fun to clean nails. While you visit. Water the plants. Scoop the cat box. Walk the dog. Dust. Help the caregiver.
When the Church women visited my Mom, I took advantage of it and left the room. I did not entertain them. I agree, offer to sit with friend why daughter runs an errand. Take a dinner. If the stroke did not disable her, take friend out to lunch.
I have been a caregiver so I know how hard it is. I do understand where this daughter is coming from, but I do think its a form of abuse to isolate your friend.
Help your friend make arrangements to move to assisted living, where she'll have plenty of social activity and you'll be able to visit without intruding on the daughter's probably limited free time.
Do you know for sure that her daughter will not allow visitors? It is possible that your friend has challenges from the stroke that she does not yet want her friends to witness, and she could be using her daughter as an excuse? Or, her daughter may have declined visitors one time, like when her mom was fresh out the hospital, and her mom now assumes that it is “no” all the time? I understand that depression often accompanies stroke, so is it possible that your friend does not want to see anyone right now? As the daughter who has often been used as a scapegoat or misunderstood, I offer these possibilities. So I echo the good advice from others here about calling and offering to take your friend out, or to bring a meal, etc. Hope you are reunited soon!
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Your friend should seriously move into Assisted Living where she'll have her own apartment and can entertain whomever she'd like whenever she'd like. Then you can talk about how abusive the daughter is for "putting" her mother in a "home".
None of these people ever offered to help with all I had to do, or provided a meal, or did a chore. I suggest that you offer to help the daughter. Take them a meal. Don’t eat their food because the daughter is probably struggling to shop and cook while she acts as care slave to mom. Offer to stay with mom while daughter gets out of the house. Offer to run errands. You’ll be more welcome if you do not add to their burden but lift some of it from their shoulders. They are in crisis mode, and it will continue for a long time.
Suggest to your friend that she move to a care facility rather than expect her daughter to provide care in her home. Friend will make friends there, and she’ll enjoy the more active lifestyle. Then you can visit her whenever you want.
I have been a caregiver so I know how hard it is. I do understand where this daughter is coming from, but I do think its a form of abuse to isolate your friend.