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You should contact his doctor immediately for medications to calm him down. If you feel unsafe, call 911 and have him taken to the ER for an evaluation.
This behavior is part of his dementia. The important thing is safety for you both. Don’t underestimate the potential for harm to either of you. Take him to his doctor, letting the doctor know in advance of the appointment via the patient portal or by a note of the aggression. He likely needs medication to calm him. You also need to call 911 if you’re afraid and have him transported to the hospital. It might be wise to video his behavior as discreetly as possible to show to doctors. Act on keeping you safe. I wish you both peace
I feel for you. I have been in the same situation with my grandpa for years. He was always a narc personality but as he got older and the dementia came into it, he was so much worse. He was mean and angry and unless we were catering to his every whim he would blow up and curse and threaten to kill everyone in the house. This eventually lead to him being placed in an ALF but they said he needed more than they could provide so now he is in MC. He hates it and is mean to everyone there too. Every chance he gets he tries to start something and if he gets sent out to the hospital he tells lies about the facility and me. I sought counseling and it helped. If you continue to live this way you will lose more than him, you will lose yourself and precious time with the other people you love. I would get him in to a doctor and get documentation so you can get him the help he needs. I hope everything works out for you. I am very empathetic to people in your position since I was there (and kind of still am)
He needs medication. You'll need to inform his doctor about what's happening. Document Grampa's words and actions with your phone video, though doctor probably will not require seeing it. Your say-so should be enough.
If you're his caregiver, you'll be the one to give him his medicine. It can be tricky to get the right dose, but don't give up! Trial and error, and you'll be still putting up with his aggressive behavior as you try to get it right. Make sure you are safe at all times because aggression in any form is NOT okay. Those with dementia don't think normally.
My husband was hiding a butcher knife in the couch cushions. I have no idea what he was thinking or how long it had been there before I saw it. He is normally a gentle, mild man, but he hit a piece of furniture hard in anger and the boards on the top split. This sort of thing is what dementia patients do when it's least expected.
Aggression is a main reason that loved ones seek placement in a facility for their dementia patient. I strongly suggest that you consider it and start looking at places.
"But Grampa would never hurt me!" Wait - he never would have before he got dementia, but his brain is different now. New Grampa most certainly is capable of doing harm, and above all things, you must keep yourself safe no matter what you have to do to achieve that. I wish you and your grandfather the best.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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If you're his caregiver, you'll be the one to give him his medicine. It can be tricky to get the right dose, but don't give up! Trial and error, and you'll be still putting up with his aggressive behavior as you try to get it right. Make sure you are safe at all times because aggression in any form is NOT okay. Those with dementia don't think normally.
My husband was hiding a butcher knife in the couch cushions. I have no idea what he was thinking or how long it had been there before I saw it. He is normally a gentle, mild man, but he hit a piece of furniture hard in anger and the boards on the top split. This sort of thing is what dementia patients do when it's least expected.
Aggression is a main reason that loved ones seek placement in a facility for their dementia patient. I strongly suggest that you consider it and start looking at places.
"But Grampa would never hurt me!" Wait - he never would have before he got dementia, but his brain is different now. New Grampa most certainly is capable of doing harm, and above all things, you must keep yourself safe no matter what you have to do to achieve that. I wish you and your grandfather the best.