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Does he have access to a bathroom that doesn't have a shower/tub in it? If so, lock the one with the shower, put an Out of Order sign on it, tell him the plumber's coming "soon".
Maybe it's me, but what is the facility your husband is in doing about this? Why is he being allowed to get into any sort of shower area without supervision?
The facility should be able to put a lock on the faucet, like what would be used for toddler child-proofing. Then you or a staff member can unlock it and supervise his showers, on a reasonable schedule. Having a wet floor is a slip-and-fall risk for which they could be liable, if your husband gets injured because they knew about the problem and didn't correct it.
The obvious question here is why isn't your husband being monitored while he is in the shower, especially being in memory care? Like already said, this is a memory care issue not a husband issue. Let them figure it out.
Sounds like he's soiling himself and feels the need to clean up? He's going to have to learn to wait for them to change him. This is the facilities problem, they should have him in adult pull ups and close the bathroom off. Or find a way to turn off the shower but that seems unlikely. Maybe putting a huge yard size plastic garage can in the shower as to block the use of it? Place weights in the bottom half so he can't move it,use the top half for dirty laundry.
Not your circus, not your monkeys. You're paying big money for him to be cared for there, and the facility should be discussing this with you and telling you what THEY are doing to solve the problem. Just be glad that it's not your home plumbing he's doing this to.
You're paying big bucks for him to be there, so the MC needs to find a solution. If your husband is a guy who showers daily, then he showers daily. If he can still do this for himself, then great. After his daily shower the staff has to start watching him better. If his room has its own shower, they can put a lock on it. If it's a communal showering facility, that place should be locked like a gas-station bathroom with the key kept at the nurse's station and it should have to be asked for.
Don't let the memory care bring this problem to you though because it isn't your problem. It's their job.
I 100% agree this is a problem for the MC to solve but there are shower timers that turn the water off after a set number of minutes, such as this: https://showersavingtimer.com/
Thank you. The timer is the best solution given on this page. Because he is in assisted living memory care, there are restrictions. I will ask about a timer. He has his own room with private bath. And yes in a perfect world there would be enough staff to keep this from happening. But in a perfect world, this kind of care wouldn’t be necessary. Right? He is unique in that he can still shower himself but forgets to turn off water. And I’m just trying to be proactive and help staff with a situation that they haven’t encountered before. He will leave a towel in his shower floor with water running. Doesn’t take long to cause water to overflow. So again, thank you for your suggestion instead of just saying MC should handle it.
Is the MC complaining to you about this? Expecting you to solve this? Neither makes sense. It sounds like he should not have access (or limited access) to the shower. Please explain more.
I don’t understand. Doesn’t sound like he’s In Memory Care. More like Assisted Living, where they’re not monitored so closely. Maybe he needs Memory Care.
The staff at the memory care facility should be working to resolve this issue. He may need to move to a different level of care, where he has more supervision.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I must tell you that the plugging up of the plumbing is a constant, and quite typical in memory cares.
Don't let the memory care bring this problem to you though because it isn't your problem. It's their job.
So again, thank you for your suggestion instead of just saying MC should handle
it.