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You don't.
You now must just wait for an incident to happen(and don't worry it will)to force his hand into either getting placed in the appropriate facility or hiring with his own money in-home help.
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If he has Alz/dementia as you have chosen as a category , you can not convince him of anything . Reason has gone out the window for him .

Like already said , depending on his current situation maybe adult daycare .
Or if he’s living alone unsafe ( with dementia ) or living with you is not working out as he refuses in home care then placement in Long Term care may be needed at some point soon .
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Have you tried adult day cares?
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If your stepdad has any dementia diagnosis that makes him "incompetent legally" (look that one up) under the law.................
AND
If you husband or you are the POA for stepdad.....................
then
You can place your stepdad in care.

However, it isn't sounding as though that is the case.
If your stepdad is in need of more care, and is depending on you too much, do know that you are "enabling" his bad choice not to get into a facility by helping him with shopping, cooking, cleaning, transportation and so on.

Can you tell us a bit more about the situation?
Does your stepdad live alone now?
Does he use you for his support in the things mentioned above?
Do you feel he is no longer competent in such things as bill-paying, cleanliness, safety?
Doe he wander and is he forgetful?

You asked us "How to convince him" that he needs care.
The sad truth is that (I am 82 and KNOW his) you really cannot convince someone of ANYTHING. And we elders get less malliable, less able to adapt, less willing to listen as we age. We get stubborn and determined to do it our own way, and we see any "advice" as "interference" and indeed at times we see it as a threat which means just ONE MORE LOSS coming at us.

I hope you will give us a bit more information.
I think it would result in a bit better answer.
I wish you and stepdad good luck.
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What is "insist in a care"? If Alzheimer's and dementia is involved, and your DH has POA, he can override stepdads wishes and have him placed in managed care if necessary.
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