Mom's grieving their relationship change, getting grouchy at others & her spouse's Parkinson's decline. She also fell twice in last two years & had to recover which was humbling. I'm not sure how to help them with next steps & they've been married a long time & don't want to be separated. Thank you for any advice.
If you are doing things to support them staying in their current living situation, set some boundaries and cut back, to help show them that AL is the answer. If they want/need more help, they can hire help with their own money. You can help facilitate that too. It gets to a point where having enough staff to do everything necessary is difficult at best.