Why would you take an elderly person out of their home, risking them of falls, flu/virus, stress on the heart and elevating pain and blood pressure, do the elderly not have the right to visit a pcp, once a year or as needed as they feel? It feels as though this is somewhat abuse on them if they are of sound mind and do not need to leave a safe environment, just to go, to go.
Take Mom for her yearly physical. If you or she feel she needs to see a doctor then you make an appt. If questioned why you do not come more often, relay what you said here.
You need to clarify your post, it makes little sense other than being a statement.
The flip side of the coin is a 90 year old that has to "depend on her kids" to clean, do shopping, organize medications and because of the medications is a fall risk in the 2 story home she refuses to leave, the one that has a laundry in the basement, and so the kids have to figure a safe way for her to do laundry or they have to add that to their weekly list of chores to do for mom so that she can remain "independent"
There is also a vast difference between your mom and the 90 year old dad that has dementia and can no longer safely live at home, alone but no one wants to upset him because some promise was made years ago that no one will put dad "in a home".
So sometimes there is a valid reason for taking an elderly person out of their home.
The decision should be based on the SAFETY of the elderly person AND the safety of the people caring for that person.
Deciding that mom or dad, grandma or grandpa can no longer live in their home is not an easy decision. Deciding where that person should live is also not an easy decision. It should be based on the level of care needed and what people can do. ( I honestly do not know if I could do now for my Husband what I did 10, 15, 20 years ago)
I respect ANY decision that is made where the safety and respect of all concerned is taken into consideration.
I quite agree, there is no reason to force things if all is going well. However it’s also important to be flexible. Don’t say ‘never’.
Does Mom say she doesn’t want to go out ?